New here - found comfort
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New here - found comfort
| Thu, 04-22-2004 - 6:31pm |
Hi All,
I am new to this board and found so much comfort here. I recently ended a 7 yr A. Like most of you it seems everything reminds me of him. TV, Radio, intersections, all have a connection. It has made me feel so much better just to come here and read all the posts. Its hard to grieve in silence, can't cry H will ask why, so here I am. Thank you all for taking away the feeling of being so alone.

Best of luck to you and keep reading it really does help.
lexy
Hi, and welcome. I've been away for 3 days, but my heart goes out to you. I just ended a 3 1/2 A that to me was my lifeforce and my other half. I understand when you say that there aren't words to describe how you're feeling. How does one express the tearing of a brokenheart?
What I will say is that it does get better and be gentle and kind with yourself. Time is what will help ease the pain until one day you will look at the the life lessons you now carry with you and the pain won't feel anywhere near as intense as it does now.
It is a process so take care of yourself (sleep, eat, excercise, which I know is easier said then done, because I haven't been the best at doing any of these things), and know that you are not alone.
MidnightBlue
I hope one day I can be a stong as you are. You are right there are no words to descirbe the pain of having your heart torn in half. He was and always will be the one who completes me. Its rough getting through the nights. I miss the goodnight phone call. I am trying and will keep reading the great advice on this board.
Intersections?????? That made me laugh. I totally understand the kinds of things you mean though. The memories aren't confined to just songs and places we used to go together. The other day I realized he was with me when I shopped for my darned handbag and that became a trigger. I was looking at this stupid handbag and remembering when I showed it to him, after hours of shopping, and decided it was THE ONE. What a silly thing to remember.
It's everywhere you look, Lexy. I'm glad you're finding some comfort grieving with us. We also have some laughs here! Hugs and welcome! Mo.
I can not help but wonder if this is harder/takes longer because its harder to grieve about what has happened. There is no one in my life I can talk to about what went on. The only people that know anything about it are the people I work with, and there no help.
I is nice to find this board where other people can help each other through the end :)
- B