New here... needing advice and sharing something that helped
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New here... needing advice and sharing something that helped
| Wed, 10-06-2010 - 7:10am |
Hi all,
I've been lurking for a while and just want to say thanks for everyone who's been sharing all their stories and advice, it's helped me loads. I've been reading and reading and this weekend (sat) i finally sent the email saying i was ending it.
It wan't the first time, but this time i felt different. last time i was distraught, sick, crying -- y'all know the drill. this time i felt strangely calm, relieved and even slightly elated. but it's different today, today is bad. today i feel sick, worried, desperate etc.
i am married, he is single and it's been nearly two years. it was intense at a lot of

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Chechi,
Good for you for hanging in.
I completely identify with your posts lillie and chechi, i hope you're both feeling a bit better today. I'm only just a week out but have had a bad couple of days. doing that negotiating stuff myself. was I too demanding? why couldn't I just accept it for what it was. But reading here has helped me see it probably wasn't that much, just mainly in my head. An escape. it didn't help that I got an email from him not actually saying that much, and accepting it, but trying the guilt thing too. Have just been reading endlessly but haven't felt up to posting until now. It's helped so much. I think the fantasy vs reality thread is a great idea too. I might feel up to starting mine tomorrow.
SS
Hi there,
I'm sorry I'm just now getting around to posting a reply. I hope that you are doing well and that you've had a good weekend.
Our stories are very similar in that I am the M one and my xAP was S. I held on tight for almost 4 years. Then the unthinkable happened. Not only did he start seeing someone else, he married her less than 3 months after we broke up and went NC.
I still struggle on a daily basis, I have to consciously remind myself that I am so much better off. I too was probably never going to leave my H. What I had with xAP was a fantasy that I created in my head and would have never worked in real life.
Hang in there sweetie, and if you ever want to talk, feel free to drop me a message.
-Angle.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
SS,
a week out is HUGE--keep going.
Thank you so much for your kind words, Luvin.
Wow, I'm so touched by all the support everyone has shown me on this board so far.
Seeking, I just wanted to welcome you to the board, welcome!
It's great you are a week out.
Thanks for the welcome Garfy! Just heading into the second week now. It has been really horrible at times but I know it would be worse if I broke. I'm seeing a therapist
Please do send out tips and what T says!
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