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New here...and unsure...
| Wed, 12-09-2009 - 2:00pm |
Hi...I am not sure how to begin, but I have been involved with my MM for a little less then 2 years now.
| Wed, 12-09-2009 - 2:00pm |
Hi...I am not sure how to begin, but I have been involved with my MM for a little less then 2 years now.
Bitsy,
I'd like to welcome you to our community although I know you'd rather not have to be here. While reading your story all I could do was feel bad that you've had to go through such a roller coaster ride, only to here the words, "I'm done. I need to focus on my family." As painful as that was for you, he has made
~Iddy~
Oh Bitsy....I'm just going to send you a (((BIG HUG))). I know you're feeling shattered.
I've been a little over a month NC (no contact) with my xMM. I know you're hurting. I still hurt and I still love him...even though he HURT me so terribly bad. But I can tell you the pain does subside...SLOWLY, but it does.
Iddy brought up a lot of very good points, so I won't rehash, but do read as much as you can here, and your eyes will be opened. The stories of all of us are so similar in the patterns. Seeing those patterns has been so helpful to me. Doesn't diminish the pain, but it helps to see where I was AND, more importantly, where I'm going in all this.
Take care of yourself and try to focus on other things in your life. It's HARD, but you can do it. It does get easier over time. Another (((HUG)))