New Here....Where do I start?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2010
New Here....Where do I start?
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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 9:27am

I'm new to these boards, lurked for a day or two to try to understand if this is where I should be....and I think it is.

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Registered: 01-24-2010
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 9:57am

Hi and welcome, jgnm


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Registered: 07-21-2009
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:54am
HI and welcome!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2010
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 11:30am

Hi jgnm,

Welcome to the boards, I hope you enjoy your stay!

I read a book once that said that you can love two people at the same time but you can't be in love with two people at the same time. When you are in love you have this tunnel vision, where all you can see is your love and nothing else.

Many of us have this tunnel vision when we end the A. All we can see, all we can think of is xAP. Our other obligations, our other interests, our other loves, all have a second place at this point. With time, and most importantly, with No Contact, we beginn to see other things in our lives that are and has always been important to us.

I think it is only natural that you don't always feel like you care for your husband; I wouldn't be alarmed by it. And I find it positive and worth noticing that you sometimes DO! It's an important sign, don't overlook it. Just give yourself time to heal from the A and then, and only then, make any kind of important decision.

((Hugs)) and take care,

Pru

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 11:51am

Welcome to our community and I am glad you found us. Yes, you are in the right place. We had a poster who hasn't been around much with a very similar story as yours and her MM pulled the rug right out from under her and decided to stay in his M and, of course, make it better. By making it better I am assuming these guys finally realize that cheating on their wives is not the answer to what's missing inside of them,

   ~Iddy~ 


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2010
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 11:01am

jgnm,


Sorry to lead with this but….. “couples counseling” for two AP's?!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2010
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 12:57pm

Thanks for all your words of wisdom and encouragement ladies!