Hi, My name is Li...uhhh em, Hi, my name is Luvin and I am an addict...."Hi Luvin" Hi everyone.
I have been a addict for the 5 -6 years...I have been clean for over a year.
I am single. I got here after I had many an A and then found my delusional self in one and had no idea that I was, he was M. Ha!! talk about a slap in the face...LOL! :)
I said just about everything to justify all my A's. Most of it was lies to EVERYONE, including me!
I had enough when I found myself in the worst situation, EVER. and I had been in some messes. But this one was for all to remember, posters and lurkers alike, still know my remember mys tory, that's how messed up and pathetic I was. I had lost it all. Every ounce of respect and I just knew there had to be a way out and I just had to OPEN my heart and eyes to this board, cuz I had Shi$ on myself fort he last time.
And this is and always be my home, and if ya aint paying the rent too, splitting the utilities, cleaning up after yourself, and/or cooking, then keep it movin.
Hope everyone is doing well and having a great weekend. It was a beautiful spring day in da dirty, dirty south....
Lolly, hope you enjoyed this beautiful weather, my good neighbor, please do tell.....besos.....
There are quite a lot of newbies and a refresher for those who have been around for a while too is always good.
A lasted a year and a half. Ended in June; had a few run-ins and have not been in contact since. I unfortunately don't know my NC date.
Married - had a DDay and fortunately H and I are trying to work out our issues.
I came here because of the blinding pain I was in. I googled support for ending affairs and was led here.
Reasons to justify: exAP was in love with me. ExAP and I were meant to be together. I told H many times I wasn't happy and he didn't do anything about it. During the A I was clouded and never once thought how my H or his W felt if they found out. We were in our own world; I only saw what was right in front of me and never thought my actions had consequence.
Reasons why enough is enough: Well he ended it and there were times I didn't think I'd be able to pick myself up off the floor and it hasn't been until recently that I've seen the light of day and that to be out of this toxic A was the best thing for me.
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
Didn’t realize this was a roll call for everyone. Thought it was only for the new posters. Ok I’m with the program now. Vet E1 reporting!
Stats:
Out of my A for 3.5 years (will be four years in a few months)
Had a D-day after my A ended
DH and I rebuilt our M
Been through IC and MC
Board nick name--OE1 Kenobi
XAP was single (he did have an on-again off-again GF)
Posting style: I serve up advice on a paper plate with no garnish but the food for thought is seasoned with love and hugs. I tend to also focus on the whys and introspection with strong emphasis on working through the feelings yet not letting the feelings overtake you.
There is not enough room here to list all my justification. It all boils down to feeling entitled.
Reasons enough was enough—risk outweighed the benefit. Lows outweighed the highs.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Married in an A with MM. It lasted 13 months, was LD, but we managed to get together physically four times during that period. xMM and I had an affair 21 years ago and had a DDay. After DDay, he threw me under the bus and we
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I have been a addict for the 5 -6 years...I have been clean for over a year.
I am single.
I got here after I had many an A and then found my delusional self in one and had no idea that I was, he was M. Ha!! talk about a slap in the face...LOL! :)
I said just about everything to justify all my A's. Most of it was lies to EVERYONE, including me!
I had enough when I found myself in the worst situation, EVER. and I had been in some messes. But this one was for all to remember, posters and lurkers alike, still know my remember mys tory, that's how messed up and pathetic I was. I had lost it all. Every ounce of respect and I just knew there had to be a way out and I just had to OPEN my heart and eyes to this board, cuz I had Shi$ on myself fort he last time.
And this is and always be my home, and if ya aint paying the rent too, splitting the utilities, cleaning up after yourself, and/or cooking, then keep it movin.
Hope everyone is doing well and having a great weekend. It was a beautiful spring day in da dirty, dirty south....
Lolly, hope you enjoyed this beautiful weather, my good neighbor, please do tell.....besos.....
I know...I know...I could not help it :)
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
A lasted a year and a half. Ended in June; had a few run-ins and have not been in contact since. I unfortunately don't know my NC date.
Married - had a DDay and fortunately H and I are trying to work out our issues.
I came here because of the blinding pain I was in. I googled support for ending affairs and was led here.
Reasons to justify: exAP was in love with me. ExAP and I were meant to be together. I told H many times I wasn't happy and he didn't do anything about it. During the A I was clouded and never once thought how my H or his W felt if they found out. We were in our own world; I only saw what was right in front of me and never thought my actions had consequence.
Reasons why enough is enough: Well he ended it and there were times I didn't think I'd be able to pick myself up off the floor and it hasn't been until recently that I've seen the light of day and that to be out of this toxic A was the best thing for me.
NC date (day you went NC)
WOW Michelle
You said it all for me! But then again you do have a way with words.
NC
Oh Lolly,
Didn’t realize this was a roll call for everyone. Thought it was only for the new posters. Ok I’m with the program now. Vet E1 reporting!
Stats:
Out of my A for 3.5 years (will be four years in a few months)
Had a D-day after my A ended
DH and I rebuilt our M
Been through IC and MC
Board nick name--OE1 Kenobi
XAP was single (he did have an on-again off-again GF)
Posting style: I serve up advice on a paper plate with no garnish but the food for thought is seasoned with love and hugs. I tend to also focus on the whys and introspection with strong emphasis on working through the feelings yet not letting the feelings overtake you.
There is not enough room here to list all my justification. It all boils down to feeling entitled.
Reasons enough was enough—risk outweighed the benefit. Lows outweighed the highs.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
NC date (day you went NC)
4/26/2009
Married or Single?
S
How you got here?
Pain
NC Date -- Oct. 12, 2010
Married in an A with MM. It lasted 13 months, was LD, but we managed to get together physically four times during that period. xMM and I had an affair 21 years ago and had a DDay. After DDay, he threw me under the bus and we
Hello Everyone,
Married
NC date: Monday 24 January 2011 (7 days!!)
Married or Single? Married. Met my DH when we were 16, married for 12 years, 3 beautiful children.
Most vulnerable time for breaking NC: work trips
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