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| Sat, 12-11-2004 - 3:06am |
I'm new to this site. I've seen my wife use Ivillage for several years for what I beleive is good sound support. I cannot beleive I am using an on-line message baord to do this after what caused me to arrive here in the first place.
I recently betrayed my wife, for the first and only time in our 15 years together. I drifted and found myself patronizing an on-line couples web site. Swingers. At first for entertainment but it grew and took hold of me. I had full reliazation of thee fire I played with but did not stop myself.
I met a couple, betrayed my wife and before I could get in my vehicle to go home wretched in the flower bed. I knew I was completely wrong. I'd hoped to salvage Christmas and tell her after but the guilt was too great. I disclosed everyting to my wife the very next monday.
I've read enough to know some what to expect. The isolation of my actions is unbearable. I know I love my wife, I know I love my family. I know m wife has had self doub about her love for me in the near past. Now I only hope she can rise above my indiscretion and forgive me - take me back. The time needed to reach that end right now seems unbearable.

Roch
Your not getting out of this quickly or easly, recovery from adultry takes a lot of time and effort.
I would suggest that you and your wife find a good marriage councilor ASAP, also consider individual counciling for you both to deal with the raw emotions your both going to be dealing with.
You may want to find out if possible if your wife has been posting at any of the MB to have a clue as to what has been going on with her were it concerns her feelings toward you in the past, you need to know what your challanges are, I am suggesting that you ask her not snoop on her.
Recovery is hard but it is do able.
You may find doing a little reading on the link provided may help you see things from another prespective.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery
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Edited 12/11/2004 3:40 am ET ET by mefreenow