A new week - A new start
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| Mon, 02-22-2010 - 7:24am |
It was very disheartening to read of so many slips and falls over the weekend but today is a new day, and I am hoping all of you can climb back on the saddle and continue on with your journey. It's not that you don't have the tools in your possession to do so. It's all here on this board in black and white.
So pick yourselves up, dust yourselves off, and let's get back to business. It's important to see this as a contract with yourself where you make a commitment to love and honor not only yourself again, but also those around you who depend on your loyalty and dedication no matter how weak or damaged you think you are. Accountability lies in your own hands. It a huge responsibility but one you turn your backs on each and every time you cry "I can't do this." Sure you can; you just don't want to do the work necessary to succeed. It's far more easier to fall back into those destructive patterns of the A and then come here to whine about how weak you are.
There are many posters on this board who are sticking to NC because they know it's the only way out of sin city. They are learning to respect themselves again, and although the road is not paved with glitter and glitz, still plod along on faith and hope that they can be a better person for their efforts. They do not need to read about " your failures and I can't do this."
So for those of you who have had a setback, if you are ready to begin again and put in the effort to do the work, how about recommitting right now, right here, in this thread. Even those of you who are sticking with the program can repeat your vows of commitment to yourselves and your futures.
I, _______, pledge to hold myself accountable for my actions, and although not always as strong as I hoped to be by now, I will not act on my hidden wishes and desires. I have full intention to keep my A over and done with by not fishing, caving, or causing any further harm to those who love and trust me. I will do all that I can to guarantee NC by blocking, deleting, ignoring, and not indulging in any personal conversation with XAP . I want nothing more for myself than to become the best person I can be from this day forward.
So those of you ready to make this a new day in your life, just copy and past this pledge with your name in the space. I am mostly looking fwd to seeing the tweeners recommit. I know you girls have what it takes.
Love,
~ Iddy~

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One more thing to help you with your new commitment:
STOP LOOKING FOR THE CLOWN
A man found himself in the middle of a long hallway. In the middle of this long hallway was a solitary door. He walked up to the door and knocked on it. It was answered by a clown who proceeded to beat the life out of him.
The next day, the gentleman was in the hallway once more, and once more found his way to the door and knocked on it. Again, it was answered by the same clown and again, the clown beat him senseless.
This occurred for 4 more days - the man would be in the hallway, go to the door, knock on it, and the clown would answer the door only to beat him senseless once more.
On the 7th day, the man was once again in the hallway. He walked up to the door and knocked on it - but no one answered. So, he went looking for the clown.
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~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
Im here and Im starting at the begining again.
I, Debbra/DM, pledge to hold myself accountable for my actions, and although not always as strong as I hoped to be by now, I will not act on my hidden wishes and desires. I have full intention to keep my A over and done with by not fishing, caving, or causing any further harm to those who love and trust me. I will do all that I can to guarantee NC by blocking, deleting, ignoring, and not indulging in any personal conversation with XAP . I want nothing more for myself than to become the best person I can be from this day forward.
Thank you Iddy
I, Lillie, pledge to hold myself accountable for my actions, and although not always as strong as I hoped to be by now, I will not act on my hidden wishes and desires. I have full intention to keep my A over and done with by not fishing, caving, or causing any further harm to those who love and trust me. I will do all that I can to guarantee NC by blocking, deleting, ignoring. I want nothing more for myself than to become the best person I can be from this day forward.
Thank you Iddy
lillie
Today marks day 25 NC for me and I am feeling very accomplished and committed to maintaining NC. Thanks for posting this Iddy.
I, Jane, pledge to hold myself accountable for my actions, and although not always as strong as I hoped to be by now, I will not act on my hidden wishes and desires. I have full intention to keep my A over and done with by not fishing, caving, or causing any further harm to those who love and trust me. I will do all that I can to guarantee NC by blocking, deleting, ignoring, and not indulging in any personal conversation with XAP . I want nothing more for myself than to become the best person I can be from this day forward.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Iddy, thank you.
NC since 2/4/2010
Dignity~
This is a rule breaker than I can happily accept. For anyone wishing to reword the pledge, have a go at it. It's the concept that's important to uphold to the best of your abilities.
Hugs to all of you who have so far responded.
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
AMEN, SISTA!
Oooo...I like this idea.
I, WC, pledge to hold myself accountable for my actions, and although not always as strong as I hoped to be by now, I will not act on my hidden wishes and desires. I have full intention to keep my A over and done with by not fishing, caving, or causing any further harm to those who love and trust me. I will do all that I can to guarantee NC by blocking, deleting, ignoring, and not indulging in any personal conversation with XAP . I want nothing more for myself than to become the best person I can be from this day forward.
'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry
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