New Years Eve Safety Planning

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Registered: 09-28-2010
New Years Eve Safety Planning
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Fri, 12-31-2010 - 1:47pm

Yup - it's that time again. Time to think about how WE'RE GOING TO TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES throughout this evening. I think this evening is one of the toughest on ALL parties who have been involved in an Affair - the families that are managing Ddays, the spouses that are spinning & all those in the ending phases.

This evening represents many things, perhaps most commonly, the leaving of the old behind in hopes that what's to come is better.

Unfortunately, it is also the time many of us feel VERY ALONE. As the midnight hour approaches, the feelings of intense loss & grief can build, reminders of all the hurt we have caused surround us and seem to culminate at that midnight hour. Given the recent spree of NC breaches, I would like to invite each person here to seriously think about what you will DO to ensure that his evening is safe for you ... whatever your life situation. If you are dealing with a Dday you'll have your own concerns to deal with. Whatever you are "at" please chime in to let us know what you will be DOING & how you will be taking care of yourself.

Here is what I am doing:

1) Going to a friends house to movies and my favorite assortment of appitizers .... yummmm

2) I have had contact with all my supports - sharing my feelings & concerns. I know that they will be thinking of me.

3) I will be reading here once I return from my friend's house [therefore, if you are alone, please post and I will respond]

4) I won't be drinking

5) I will not be around drinking people

6) I will write a journal reflection on how AMAZING I am feeling this year compared to last year ... and envisioning where I will be in a year from now

7) I am taking inventory of all the amazingness that is in my life TODAY. If nothing changed for me at all this year, I would still have sooooo much to be really grateful for.

8) I will resist thoughts that contribute to my feelings of lonliness & fear.

So, that's what I am thinking. What about you?

TU.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 2:08pm

TU...thanks for posting your plans for NYE.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 2:16pm

I'm thinking about taking myself out to a movie tonight, if I can survive the cold!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 4:19pm

I'll be home alone tonight as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 5:55pm
Hi Tu,

On my way out the door to go up to our campsite, it's going to be great. Just us and the beauty of nature. The kids love it up there, it's so peaceful. No tv, cells or Internet :) Have a wonderful New years!
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Registered: 07-13-2010
Fri, 12-31-2010 - 8:18pm

Thanks TU!

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Sat, 01-01-2011 - 2:02am
Ooooh good thinking TU! I'm late in reading it (as we already hit the midnight hour) but like you I made it a point to not be alone - and to share it with friends and tried to be good in keeping happiness and love the core of my perspective. Tonight I didn't have to fake happiness - I truly felt it - and I feel hopeful! Happy New Year to all of you!
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