Newbie here and LC bites, very hard
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| Mon, 11-15-2010 - 11:12pm |
Hi everybody. I have been lurking this board for several months. It took me a long time to do this posting becuz I have depression from A. Now here is my story and hope it makes sense. And this is first time I'm doing somethin like this posting so forgive me for the typos.
I’m S and my xap is MM, a coworker. It was EA for about a year and then PA for 4 months. The last time we hooked up was in January. After he left that evening, I got a phone call from the W. She did not leave a message. I called xap about the call and he said he didn’t know how W got my number. That was that. The next day I got a text from W stating if I love xap to tell him so he could leave her. I was floored. I didn’t bring this up to xap. I left it alone.
For a few weeks xap and I did not speak or anything. Finally we started to talk again and xap told me that a woman had called his home and gave his W info about me and xap. This person gave the W my home phone, cell phone, and address!

Welcome to EAS SisterC.
It sounds as if you have a handle on things and are doing everything "right".
SisterC,
Welcome to EAS and the most amazing support group you could possibly find on the web. Your story is quite dramatic and a bit scary. I bet you are absolutey worn out from it all.
Welcome to our community, Sister. (you are one now to all of us):smileywink: I am proud of you for coming forward with your story because just putting it out there will help you in the healing process.
I am sorry you got involved with such a player. Reading between the lines, I can see JAM as someone who has been down this road before, and his constant denial that his W knew about it colors him as being an extremely selfish person. He wants his cake at any cost, and doesn't care who gets hurt in the process.
LC does suck. I've been doing it for the last 6.5 years. My Xmm is my boss, but we are FINALLY back to a copesetic work relationship. It took a long time for both of us to dig our way out of the A dumpster. I am proud of you for leaving this job, and once you do, you'll be able to make greater strides toward full recovery.
Keep reading here, posting when you need to, and know that you are no longer alone. We all made poor choices in going down the A path, but it's how we turn our lives around that will count most. You will reach indifference eventually, and your chances of getting there sooner hinge on your determination to put this all behind you. When you don't have to see this lying JAM anymore, you will be able to see yourself more clearer. Remember that an A does not define you, but they do hamper our growth as individuals. We cannot be our authentic selves when we are sleeping in a bed of lies and deceit.
Welcome Sister :)
I'm glad you decided to post after lurking for awhile. Read all you can - you will learn so much here.
Bodhi
welcome aboard sister!