Newbie: Just ended last night

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Registered: 04-06-2011
Newbie: Just ended last night
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Wed, 04-06-2011 - 10:06am

I don't know where to start but I feel so lost and scared right now. I have been lurking for many months now and just ended an almost year long distance EA.

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Registered: 04-06-2011
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 7:59am

I actually slept last night for

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Registered: 04-02-2011
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 9:25am

I'm new here also but the A occurred a long time ago.I see

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Registered: 04-06-2011
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 10:18am

I saved nothing. I always deleted email and texts right away. I don't have one thing from the A.

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Registered: 07-16-2010
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 10:56am

I feel your pain. My A lasted about 13 months and most of those months were horrible and we were off more than on.

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Registered: 04-06-2011
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 2:34pm

Wow!

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Registered: 04-01-2011
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 4:56pm
Hang in there Genevieve. These weeks are soo hard. BUT slowly you will feel better able to cope. You will come back to your husband and refocus on you. Keep reading here it helps so much.

Thinking of you

theyellowone xx

"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~

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Registered: 04-06-2011
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 7:38am

I just wanted you all to know that I am surviving, actually much better than I thought I would.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 8:08am
Thanks for the update Genevieve. You are doing everything right girl!! You blocked, you walked, you're getting therapy, you're keeping yourself busy, you remember how out of control it felt to be in the A, and you believe in your ability to get through this. I wish I'd had that much clarity when I started out here. You should be feeling so proud of yourself :)

Sunshine and smiles

Kat
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 8:53am

Genevieve,

You've made a plan and are working it. I am so very proud of you. Sure, there are going to be some really crappy days ahead, but as long as you stay focused on the present, keep yourself busy, plan out

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 01-31-2011
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 11:58am
yes, we slip away and we don't even realize it - but our family knows and senses when their wife/mom is disengaged, no matter HOW well you think you're hiding it.

3 days of NC is brand-spanking new and you are in the most painful phase. It helped me to come here and read HL what was coming, so I wasnt caught so off-guard.

But, hang in there - I also promise along with the others that the pain DOES subside.