Nice family movie day, and WHAM

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Registered: 11-29-2011
Nice family movie day, and WHAM
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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 5:40pm
Who do you think shows up at the same theatre, same time, with wife & daughter!!! It was almost too much to bear, the heart racing, the shakes, the INCREDIBLE sadness ....ouch, just when i was feeling good and strong, now I have flu like symptoms..achy, head ache, and i just want to be by myself and curl into a ball and cry, but I can't, everyone is home..
That was so hard to go through...at least he didn't make eye contact, maybe he didn't see me? Why did I have to see him...what were the chances of that! Ugh...thanks for listening

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14

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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 5:46pm

Wow...hugs to you!!!!

I see xap some in rl, but he doesn't have a wife.

Sometimes you just have to die a little inside in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger and wiser version of you!
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 6:04pm

It's tough.

Take a deep breath.

Take some time to get yourself back into the healing mode.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 6:07pm
That sucks BK.
Stay strong sweetheart.
(((((smooch))))))

Rain
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Registered: 11-13-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 6:56pm
Awww BK. I had similar episode new years day. I merely saw his Ws car at theatre and went into a tailspin. From seeing the car I was of course able to make all sorts of irrational fantasies about their happiness...forget the contradiction that I was there with my H and 3 kids, forget that seeing the car is a big leap to marital bliss. What I did think about though was how fortunate I was that I still had a H that loves me and my 3 beautiful kids. I could very well have lost everything and x would still be at movies with W. It did rattle me though and I was thrown for most of the night. Bear in mind I work with xap, but it was the knowing he was present with his W in my world outside of work that was so unnerving for me. Hang in there sweetie. Sorry it happened, hold on and this feeling too shall pass. Its hard when we want to curl up and cry and we still have to fake like all is grand. Take some deep breaths and focus on your family as best you can. That will help you through. Hang in there, we are here with you.
Hopeful xo
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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 7:44pm
Thanks everyone, I appreciate the kind words. This has definitely set me back, all kinds of crazy thoughts of contacting, telling him how much it hurt, but I keep telling myself what's the point? Thankfully he's blocked out, so he can't do the same even if he's thinking it...I wouldn't know. Just going to suffer through an work past the set back as best as I can.

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14

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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 9:38pm
thats all you can do. hang in there...seeing them is the worst, seeing them together with w...can hit your over your head so damn hard. So sorry.
Luvin
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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 10:35pm
BK,
So sorry to hear that this happened to you, and so early in your ending. Crazy thoughts can come, but where did you choose to go? To EAS for your support. Yep. You handled this situation with as much strength as you could muster. And this is definately a setback for you. But now the work begins again...this certainly did NOT set your NC clock back as you did nothing wrong here. You were planning for a nice relaxing, family movie day. This is one of those "throw-you-for-a-loop" moments that you will have to move on from. Because, like you said, even if you have crazy thoughts of contacting him, you keep telling yourself, "what's the point?" There is and never will be a point. You are out. That is the point that matters. We are all here for you, sweetie. This is the sucky stuff. :( Hang in there. One minute, one hour, one day at a time.

Hearts <3
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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 11:42pm

Thadda girl, bk

You just have to work through it.


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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 5:57am
Thank you, it really means so much that you are here, THANK God really, because I don't think I could have gone through that alone, and I'm not alone anymore thanks to all of you ((((hugs))))
So, I went to bed to try to forget, didn't work, didn't sleep much at all, but I also didn't lose my head & contact, a VERY good thing, a nice change in myself, and today I still have 10 days under my belt because of you all! So thank you again for helping me through...:)

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14

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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 7:42am

Hang in there, these will be a couple of hard days where you second guess your decision.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.