No attraction to H

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Registered: 11-08-2004
No attraction to H
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Sat, 01-15-2005 - 2:56pm

I've posted here a few times, but mostly lurk. I don't have anyone to talk to that is objective. I've seen great advice and support on this board and it has helped me to see my A for what it really was. A fantasy.

I was in an A for nine months. It ended a couple months ago. I left my H, and
a part of me knows I could make my M work if I want to. H loves me very much and is willing to do whatever it takes to get me back.

The only drawback for me is that I'm not attracted to him, at all. I really never have been. He's a very good man, and there was never any abuse or anything, I just don't feel physically attracted to him.

I was very attracted to xMM and for the first time in my life I discovered passion. There had never been any passion in any of my previous relationsips. (of course MM said the samething. *rolling eyes*) That is what I find I miss most from xMM. I'm not sure I can "settle" for a passionless relationship now. Part of me says I should be glad for the experience, and be content with that. Another part of me says I should go ahead with a D and maybe I will find that again with someone else.

I'm very confused on this one issue. If it wasn't for that, I would have no doubt what to do. Any input would be greatly appreciated! TIA!

Owl

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 8:20am

This part of an interesting article was posted elsewhere.

Sanguine

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