Had a great T appt today. No surprise what I'm about to say here...
The NC boils down to one thing: a choice. We can either choose to make contact or we can choose not to make contact. Every single day of our lives we are faced with a multitude of choices. Sometimes we make good choices and sometimes we make poor choices. But the only way to choose anything is to take all the information we have and decide what's the best and healthiest
I am so glad I am not the only one. This afternoon has really been a struggle. I haven't been so close to breaking NC over my almost 5 weeks of NC/LC. Logically speaking, there is simply no point because he will not give me the answers to my questions - did he really love me? did he ever care? why did he give me up so easily, why didn't he fight for us? - but just like everybody else, I keep repeating that it doesn't matter, and reminding myself how terribly sad, unworthy and depressed he made me feel - but I haven't cried for a week or so, and today just couldn't stop tears from streaming down my face.
I have a blind faith it will get better. It can't possibly get any damn worse anyway. But right now I feel like I will never be happy again.
GBG--Sometimes, I have to absolutely wallow in my self pity and cry like a baby. Then, when the pity party is over, I usually feel better. So, just accept your sad feelings for what they are. No need to analyze them. Just acknowledge your sadness as a feeling that will come and go at times in your life. Try to be comfortable with that.
You are your own catalyst for happiness!! You woke up this morning, right? That means you are lucky enough to have the opportunity to make a positive difference in someone else's life today!! Give away the things you seek and see what happens. You'll start to feel so much better. And make a mental list this morning of 10 things that you are grateful for. They don't have to be profound. It can be somethings as simple as "I'm grateful I picked that paint color for my kitchen." I find starting my
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I have to echo whats already been said.
NC=NO NEW HURTS
So much truth and strength in that.
Stay strong alwayst....its just one of those moments that is making your stronger and wiser.
DM
OMG--I am glad its not just me.
Had a great T appt today. No surprise what I'm about to say here...
The NC boils down to one thing: a choice. We can either choose to make contact or we can choose not to make contact. Every single day of our lives we are faced with a multitude of choices. Sometimes we make good choices and sometimes we make poor choices. But the only way to choose anything is to take all the information we have and decide what's the best and healthiest
I am so glad I am not the only one. This afternoon has really been a struggle. I haven't been so close to breaking NC over my almost 5 weeks of NC/LC. Logically speaking, there is simply no point because he will not give me the answers to my questions - did he really love me? did he ever care? why did he give me up so easily, why didn't he fight for us? - but just like everybody else, I keep repeating that it doesn't matter, and reminding myself how terribly sad, unworthy and depressed he made me feel - but I haven't cried for a week or so, and today just couldn't stop tears from streaming down my face.
I have a blind faith it will get better. It can't possibly get any damn worse anyway. But right now I feel like I will never be happy again.
XOXO
Gone
GBG--Sometimes, I have to absolutely wallow in my self pity and cry like a baby. Then, when the pity party is over, I usually feel better. So, just accept your sad feelings for what they are. No need to analyze them. Just acknowledge your sadness as a feeling that will come and go at times in your life. Try to be comfortable with that.
You are your own catalyst for happiness!! You woke up this morning, right? That means you are lucky enough to have the opportunity to make a positive difference in someone else's life today!! Give away the things you seek and see what happens. You'll start to feel so much better. And make a mental list this morning of 10 things that you are grateful for. They don't have to be profound. It can be somethings as simple as "I'm grateful I picked that paint color for my kitchen." I find starting my
Thank you alwayst. There are so many things in my life I really should be grateful for - and here I am, stuck in all this misery. Tired of it already.
Baby carrot visualization does sound like a good idea, hehe:)
XOXO
Gone
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