no decision FEELS good in the end for MW
Is a reality for a MW here- one that SOME seem to not understand ( esp the single women ) . GEE if it was all so cut and dry to just explain "walking away from a marriage" or "WHY we chose to enter an affiar" - ITS JUST NOT cut and dry. All I know is my experience and I know #1 to enter the affair was a self motivated decison one where all I knew was that I hadnt felt so much love in YEARS and to simply ignore that was impossible . BUT to END the affiar or end my marriage GEE now I have to stand up to REALITY and realize I have to not only consider myself but the other man, husband, my children, relatives, friends, my career, so many items. In the end sorry to say we married people have to sit and weigh out our options as to what is more important - A love that yes feels incredible OR taking away life, stability, a safe secure enviromment, a HOME, a FAMILY - JUST for my own happiness and even if I did chose to go with other man THAT reality isnt anything but a MAYBE!! I am sorry even though I may not be the best person in the world to have the affair I simply am not strong enough to uproot and ruin other peoples lives who are content with the way things are for my own happiness. HOW SELFISH WOULD THAT MAKE ME?
I am sorry but this is one thing alot of us do not admidt here.
I know for a FACT that if I didnt have a marriage and children to consider. I would stay with OM and knowing that hurts like HELL.
I am not being selfish anymore (ie:ended the affair) BUT in my situation REALITY and the decision to go back to my marriage does NOT feel good AT ALL. So for you single people out there who think that we have it made and that we forget about you or that its so easy - you dont have any idea!