No excuses....

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Registered: 09-16-2009
No excuses....
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 2:07pm

With deep regrets; I am back head hanging low and starting over AGAIN. I think I need to find

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Registered: 09-16-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 3:50pm

Step 1. Block Cell Phone. DONE.


Step 2. Now begin to find peace with NC.

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 4:45pm

Way to go...

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Registered: 09-16-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 5:16pm

Lynn:


I need some real help; thats more than apparent. I thought I was a smart intelligent human being; I am a professional; college educated wife, mother, sister, daughter; I am the matriarch of the family; helping sisters, friends, brothers, parents; with all kinds of issues and dilemmas, yet I can't solve my own battle.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 9:56pm

The thing of it is, hotpants, when we relinquish our power to another and they take control by making decisions we don't want or like, of course we get mad,


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Registered: 07-28-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 8:48am

Good Morning...


First I want to say that what you have been involved with does not define you as a person... you still are a wonderful, smart, educated beautiful person.


This is an addiction plan and simple.

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Registered: 09-16-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 5:36pm

We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.


I admitted all of this months ago; and still fall to his power; eliminating communication from him will help relinquish his power; because it is the only form of communication we ever shared phone/text.


HOWEVER; I am not finding the comfort I thought I once would have when I said many times; I AM DONE and THIS IS OVER. I almost feel numb to all of it; I use to feel almost as if an elephant was finally off my chest; I feel nothing.


I don't care for this man; I don't love this man; I have no ill will towards him either; he was simply an addiction that fed a terrible part of me; so in letting go of all of this I feel nothing; and that is what is equalling troubling Lynn; why can't I cry; or feel bad for my guilty pleasure; have I de-sensitized myself from sharing with my husband all these years and encounters that have now led me to where I am today ?? I almost wish I could share this all with him; to at least cleanse my soul. I know I never would but I am just lost right now. I took some time away from this board the past few weeks; maybe by doing so steered me the wrong way ??


I have mixed emotions today of what I feel; maybe its the post traumatic start of NC that is affecting me right now; usually I feel great by Day 3/4.....


Peace to you all.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 10:34am

"HOWEVER; I am not finding the comfort I thought I once would have when I said many times; I AM DONE and THIS IS OVER. I almost feel numb to all of it; I use to feel almost as if an elephant was finally off my chest; I feel nothing."


Maybe

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 4:53pm

HP~


So much of what we feel in an A is the "highs & lows" and that roller coaster feeling of going up the hill and crashing down on the other side...


Maybe now that you finally blocked him you know deep down in your gut its done and over and your not sure how you really feel...


Take some time now for YOU... time to figure out what kept you in that A for 3 years...

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Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 5:33pm
You know what I think I discovered whats missing; my head has been in the clouds for so long that its me; not only my addiction to my AP; but my phone became my lifeline to him.
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Registered: 07-28-2009
Fri, 11-13-2009 - 8:23am

HP~


Good morning...