This is not an extension of MAS!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
This is not an extension of MAS!
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 12:03am

I am not the best writer on here, but I have been on this board a long time and I have seen people come and go and am struggling as I have read posts today.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 12:12am

ALL CAPS SHOUTING THANK YOU.

I NEEDED YOU TO SAY THIS.

A MILLION TIMES THANK YOU.

IT PUNCHES ME IN THE FACE, STOMACH, HEART & Makes me want to scamper from my "safe zone" when reading any of the half hearted, moak toast, exploitation to continue to "figure the Xap out"...stuff...Its almost like a slap in the face to TRUE HEALING and moving on...and THAT's HARD ENOUGH!

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 01-28-2011
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 12:18am

I am new on the board. My A was ended not by my choice but I started writing here because I do not want to go back to that please again. I have found everyone's experience and advice to be very helpful and empowering. I have realized that I need to take some control back in my life and it's going to be ok. That I can face my boss at work on Monday and not care that he broke it off and not cry about it. I should be happy that he ended it. I hope that my posts did not give that impression that I was hoping for an extension, I know how painful an A and coping is, and I appreciate everyone's openness to help.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 12:34am
My post is not directed at you and no one else either. I am pretty darn direct. Read my other posts. Hell, read my story and you will see how truly dedicated I am to helping people like you...I was you. Still working my way to be a better me. A healthy me and the best thing I ever did for my life and family is come to this board.
Hardcopying....ur posts remind me of pain n anguish...I used to think like u do in more eats then one...u are in for some work. Some pain. But you will make it and respect yourself once again if u stay here and do stick up for yourself now and forever more...I sound like a song...lol

Please stay and post. We will be here to support you.

Again, the board has been shaky lately...n I can not stand to see it compromised in the slightest fashion. It means that much to me and you will know why if you stick around...
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 1:12am

Luvin

More power to you for your directness!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2011
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 6:56am

That was why I waited to post here for when I was ready to call it quits with XAP.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:00am

Luvin,

Thank you for posting what so many of us are probably thinking. I used this safe place every single day for three months solid to help me through the ending of my A and to be held accountable for my actions. I used this board to uplift me when I was feeling down and I used this board to straighten out my thinking when I was feeling bewildered.

It took me three times to end for good. I posted here each time I tried to end, but when I slinked back into the A, I quietly left the board I(posting), but continued to lurk.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:20am
Luvin my girl - You say you aren't a writer, but you so eloquently said EXACTLY what I was feeling after having read posts for the last hour. So glad you are on the EAS board girl!
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 8:27am

I appreciate the message you are trying to get across, Luvin, and I agree that several supposed enders have been disrupting this board (we know who you are), so in the best interest of EAS I would advise a DIRECT response to them. TU and I have both told two different "I

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 9:23am
This is one lurker that will not be posting. As I read I do find some good posts but there seems to be a group of you that does nothing but ridicule, berate and yell. It's a very our way or the highway approach, maybe good for addicts but I think this board is missing the mark. So you guys are not a extension....great then stop posting on MAS with your higher than high attitudes...(and you know you do) I would think maybe you would want to keep this board a bit more open to MAS....cuz really EAS is a extension of MAS. How many of you posted on MAS and are now on EAS. The boards go hand and hand. Okay EASers are in pain, so are MASers. But everyone is in different points of their ending....maybe this board should start being a little more tolerant to the ones who are just starting and need a extra push. and if not...maybe village needs a in between board..idk....
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:01am

Dear my EAS family,

Last evening I sent out an SOS call to the people on this board who I have contact with off the board. My calling?- we need all the Vets and Tweeners that we can muster right now in this space because there is a WHOLE lotta hurting and fog going on. I have been here long enough to see the board compromised VERY quickly ... and just like others have expressed over and over again (I think DEE most recently in her own thread) ... when it starts to get too much, rallying back together, re-focusing and re-committing to the principles of EAS is in order.

What we do HERE works. I am living proof. People who want to end their affairs can make choices about where they go. BUT this board offers if ALL in the name of support. Nothing here is EVER said in harshness - even this post. This isn't about ranting or raising voices, or yelling at posters ... this is about getting REAL. And yes the caps are about emphasis ... but not yelling. We are a family here. We take care of one another as evidenced by the relentless support that is offered time and again. We don't give up on one another. I care. WE care. I don't ever ever want to see another family go through what I have been through. So Lurkers & Newbies ... we will support you with this in mind. That you aren't thinking right, you're life as you know it is about to burn to the ground, and the only thing that may stand between you and total devastation is EAS.

It is on each individual to make the decision to BE HERE or not. That's not on us. WE make this community, we keep it alive, and we welcome each new member with BIG LOVE.

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