This is not an extension of MAS!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
This is not an extension of MAS!
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 12:03am

I am not the best writer on here, but I have been on this board a long time and I have seen people come and go and am struggling as I have read posts today.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:06am

You asked me to go to them directly Iddy, so I will do so.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:06am

Scarlet, lurkers and would-be enders,

No one should feel afraid to post here once they've made the decision--or the decision was made for them--to end their A. Every regular poster on here has welcomed Newbies with open arms and strong shoulders to cry on. That is not the point of Luvin's post. If you've lurked, then you know that we are indeed a very compassionate bunch. Tough love gets doled out on an as-needed basis because sometimes THAT'S what's needed to help a Newbie over the hump. They may retract, take a few days to let the tough love words sink in, but they almost alway come back with a new perspective and with gratitude.

Please understand that we have all been in affairs. We know

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:30am
Okay well first I do believe in the block and walk no contact rule. I get that. And thats why you have never seen my posts here. I respect and even support this board. I know the post in question...she thinks she ended her A. Okay most of you ripped her apart for that. Did anybody say great then offer her the next steps for her success? When I read that post I just cringed because I know she was going to hear it..and she did. And then a separate post was created to address It. Just help her if that what's this is suppose to be about. She crying out for help.....ya know taking some one down with words and ridiculing them in the name of "love" is a sign of a abuser. Something to think about.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:51am

Scarlett,

Please tell me more about this group that does NOTHING but rebate and yell and please direct me to such posts. I have been on this board for well over a year and have not seen a bunch of higher than high attitudes EVER. I am only responded to your post, not because I think it has any merit, with perhaps, one small exception, and that is because I do not post or go on MAS, so I can not speak to that either way. I am responding to you only because if someone else is reading and they are, particularly a lurker, you have just really insulted this board and its members. And as a member, I am going to ask for you to please explain further and show me evidence of such ridicule and instances of berating. And please direct me to what the posters that you felt were being berated and ridiculed stated in their posts that would warrant such a response.

I do not post on MAS. Too painful to even read there and I can post wherever the hell I wish if I so choose.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:56am
Well I don't think I have to...you just did a nice job. And I made my point so I will get off of your board...again this is one lurker who just got turned off to this board.
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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:59am
Ohhh weren't you asked to take it off the board yourself? Just saying.
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:03am

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I saw that you have already done that , Luvin. You did good.

((Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:14am

Scarlett,

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Honey, I was not at all offended by your opinion in your original post...just a little miffed re. the ridiculing and berating. If that were going on, posts would be reported as a violation left and right. ;-)

Regardless, I hope in a few days you will reconsider lurking here again. If you are anywhere close to wanting to end your A, this is the place to read. You always have the option to skip over posts that are unsettling to you.

((Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:19am
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:24am

Luvin- et al my chicas.

xo.

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