This is not an extension of MAS!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
This is not an extension of MAS!
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 12:03am

I am not the best writer on here, but I have been on this board a long time and I have seen people come and go and am struggling as I have read posts today.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida

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Registered: 11-16-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 5:56pm
Yes, this is a support board for addicts.
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:19pm

This post was a healthy assertion of our EAS boundary.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 01-23-2011
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 2:19am

As a lurker on EAS and the "other" board, and having an A myself, I just want to tell you that I appreciate the style of support on this board.

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Registered: 10-16-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 2:42am

A little postscript from me:

I cruised over to MAS tonite to see what everyone was talking about.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 7:15am

Luvinlife,

I can relate to your post. When I first began my affair, I found EAS when I googled something about having an affair. I posted my whole giddy reunion-with-ex-lover story here and was immediately shot down, raked over coals, burned at the stake!!!! I did not realize at the time that this was an endings board. LOL. I am embarrassed now and sure I hurt and offended some people with my sappy "love" story. Barf.

Well, just like you, I knew in my gut that I would be returning to EAS one day. When the time finally came, I was welcomed with a lot of warmth and support. I caught my fair share of some tough love. I even left the board for a little bit, to go lick my wounds after I got an ass kicking from Iddy. Ouch!!! We don't want to actually hear what we know in our hearts to be true, do we?!?!

The posters on EAS offer

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 01-01-2009
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 8:17pm
I have been a lurker on both sides. I see a lot of the same pain being discussed on both boards but with different expectations for support. I really did not understand the differences and the need for them until I owned my own inappropriate behavior in seeking out another womans husband to fulfill my own needs.

Complete and absolute NO CONTACT is the only way to stop and that is why the posters here are so adamant about this here. If you read anything too mushy or that gives you any leeway for engaging in inappropriate behavior, you tend to start thinking it's not so bad to call him...or maybe just one email won't hurt...or you really can handle being friends...and maybe the relationship is not as tawdry as you think...

This side is a glass of cold wafer in your face. Let's try to keep it like that, especially for those of us that are still a little delusional.
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Registered: 08-30-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 9:32pm
The cold water in the face is to keep us all awake in reality so we don't go back to a place of hurting. By allowing further contact with exAP you only drag out the inevitable, which is the end of the A. I wish I came here a year into my A when we tried to end it the first and second time. Maybe with the tough love I would have been stronger to stay away and remain NC instead of falling back into old habits and wasting a year of my life only to get the worst heartbreak. We all learn on our own terms I suppose; but I will say this - without the support of EAS I would not be as strong and hopeful for the future as I am today.
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 9:38pm

Thanks for this!!!! What

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 11:17pm

I like that analogy....I never thought about it that way. That is great.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 01-21-2009
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 12:59pm

Luvin,

Since it is me that you are referring to and perhaps a few others and all the innuendo. Could you please respond to me directly as Iddy has suggested so that we can speak about this? You can post on this thread or email me directly. Thanks.

Amexdm

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