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Not her fault
| Wed, 06-09-2004 - 1:31am |
I found this discussion board because a friend of mine confessed she had an affair (and I'm trying to understand what she is dealing with); she is married and so is the OM. She has not been the same person since it happend and everyone has noticed. She feels sick to death all the time and there is nothing anyone can do or say to make her feel better (basically I'm the only person who knows; lucky me). Basically, the jerk took her soul, and what a beautiful soul it was. He ended the affair because they both have same children, which I basically think was his way of chickening out.
I'm glad he ended their affair but I am pissed as hell that he temped her and took the light from her life. Hey, if it was one of my other friends I would say they had it coming but this girl is different. She is one of those people who gives to others until it hurts. The really bad part is that I don't think she is the only woman that he has lead down this path. I would like her to tell me more about him so I can put a PI on him to expose him for what he really is but she will not give me any info on him except for his first name. How do I get my friend to open up?

At least for now you don't, you support her recovery and that is going to take a long time.
As an XOP I can tell you that your friend chose to enter this affair it was not forced on her, the giving tell it hurts could indicate unresolved emotional issues that burst the surface in the form of an affair, she should find a "GOOD" individual councelor and get some more insight into what is going on on the inside of her.
JMHO
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