not married

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Registered: 03-27-2004
not married
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 10:27am
i have read so many posts in the last couple days... i noticed that mostly everyone has let their partners kno about their A and also most are married. what kills me here is that i will not let my bf kno i cheated on him... it just doesnt feel like an option to me because we are not married which makes it easier to leave and resent me. after reading how brave everyone is for being honest has really left me feeling inadaquate in my relationship. and i cant fix it! cuz if i tell him he could leave me and my whole future will be distroyed. and if i d ont tell him i have to live with this guilt.

ugh! i feel like last mo nth i took 1 step forward and now im 2 steps back!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: srfgrl55
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 3:47pm
Hon - there are no rules to this affair bizness. I have said nothing to my husband about what I've been doing over the past six months. The important thing for you to focus on is your decision of staying out of the affair. The past is in the past... let it go and try to do what you see as right from now on.

From the mouth of a former panic disorder sufferer..... there is nothing to be gained by worrying about the future and there is nothing to be gained from experiencing guilt due to past events. It's the here and now that is important.

elf