Not sure if this is the right place...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2012
Not sure if this is the right place...
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 3:13pm
I have been having a fairly recent affair with a CW. I started a new job in early March and roughly a week & a half after starting, the inappropriate conversations started with the CW. We talked a lot about hooking up with one another but I never thought it would happen because he was leaving his job and moving across the country at the beginning of April. He ended up staying at the job for another month and things escalated. We ended up sleeping together last week. A few days later he told me he felt awful about it, but regardless we tried to sleep together again over the weekend. We were not able to, so we went to work and acted as if nothing happened. Last night I got a text from him saying he needed space and I need to find someone else. Needless to say, I am bummed and relieved about this at the same time. I cried for a while then came to the realization he will be leaving the state next Monday and I wiki not see him again. But I still have 3 days of working with him. How a, I supposed to deal with this and not make it completely awkward? My heart and ego are aching over this and I wish I knew how to handle it. TYIA!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2011
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 3:41pm
Your in the right place welcome! I know its hard but you can do it check out our healing library and read how to do low contact (LC) it will help you get through the next few days until he leaves. I'm lc with my xap and its not easy but it can be done.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2012
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 4:07pm

Thank you, I will check that out! I am very anxious about work, as we work very closely with one another.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2011
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 7:43pm
The good news is it's only 3 days of lc and then you can go completely no contact which is far better for you, you will heal faster, please check out blocking to, last year I got to three weeks nc but didn't block him and he text me, I dove right back in and I was healing at that point and felt so much better, I threw it right down the toilet only to end up back here again. They always end and is never nicely.
Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 7:59pm
Welcome to EAS, KF.
I highly recommend the Healing Library as well. Read as much as you can. Are you married? This ending process is painful and requires much work on your part. We have all BTDT and will give you the encouragement to get through the tough times. Since he ended things, the time is now to work on getting you stronger and finding out why you became vulnerable to an unavailable man.
Post here often. I'm telling you, you will receive tons of support through this ending.

Hearts <3