Now, onto more important matters.....

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Now, onto more important matters.....
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Wed, 12-16-2009 - 11:47am

To all:


I would like to hear from those of you who are now in NC/strict LC, and how long it has

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 5:22pm

GL,


Look at you! You are almost a Tweener, and that is something to be very proud of. You see, Tweeners can give advice and know that THEY KNOW what they're talking about. ;-)


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Another milestone, my dear. It is quite apparent the fog has lifted and even though there will still be a few rough patches that may fog those sexy shades you're wearing, it will be very temporary and short lived. Once we cross that fork in the road where we know we don't ever want to turn back, is when the highway opens up to us.


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That is exactly why I needed this place too, back in the day. Now I'm just addicted. ;-) In retrospect, affairs have nothing to do with honesty, and for however long we participated in one, that view of honestly was getting more skewed by the minute. Sure, perhaps our feelings felt honest, but feelings are transient and can change like the weather. Once we are out of our affairs the best thing that can happen to us is being doused with a cold bucket of honesty. How else are we going to ever snap out of it? ;-)


I'm very proud of you, Gal. I am looking forward to when your words of wisdom become a constant around here, and they will, right? We have lost most of our Tweeners the last few months

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 5:30pm

AOMM,


Another

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 02-28-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 5:31pm

Iddy,


I am into my third month of strict NC after seven years on and off

 

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 5:48pm

So many strong women on this board! I'm so proud to hear so many stick by the NC rule! You all ROCK!


I am on day #8 of NC.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 5:50pm

NIIA,


Thank you so much for the congrats but let me extend the same to you. 8 months is...hmmmm....what we would call in these here parts of cyber space, A SUPER TWEENER. You rock, lady!


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Ain't that the truth and nothing but... I still have to pay the toll booth 5 days a week. Hate spending my lunch money this way. ;-)


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   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 7:21pm

Kristen,


I am so proud of you, honey. You have come a long way in your almost 3 months.

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 7:42pm

IIA,


8 days is a great beginning and before you know it, a month will have passed. We are so busy during the holidays that the new year will be here before you know it. Keep up the good work, and one thing I learned when I first got here was to post, post, post...and

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-27-2008
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 8:27pm

~waves to everyone~


I guess by the definition that was given by you iddy, Im technically a tweener. Some days its certainly doesnt feel like that. Im 4+ months in(not counting and really have no desire too). I still have the fresh memory of all the hurt and pain that he or maybe

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Registered: 11-16-2008
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 8:34pm

I have been NC for about 4 1/2 months. D Day came and he threw me under the bus! We had been seeing each other for well over 3 years. His story in the beginning was that they were separated. Then they got back together because she had cancer. His W was dying. How could he divorce the mother of his 3 children when she was so sick? On D Day I discovered from his W that she was not sick, she never had cancer. She was very nice to me -- btw. He lied the entire time about her being sick. I was so devastated at the depth of his lies that NC to me was my only option. I have not spoken to him since DDay. I have removed all his information from my phone, and blocked him from my email both at work and at home.

When I have weak moments and think that I miss him, I just tell myself over and over again how can you miss someone you never even knew....because I have no clue who I was involved with for all those years.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 8:46pm

Iddy,


Thank you for your words. I guess I just needed some reassuring that the lessening of guilt is a natural and normal part of healing. To know that my heart isn't as