Now, onto more important matters.....

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Now, onto more important matters.....
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Wed, 12-16-2009 - 11:47am

To all:


I would like to hear from those of you who are now in NC/strict LC, and how long it has

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-15-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 9:38pm

Hi!


Well, I noticed many of us have fallen off of the wagon as well, but it seems no 'wagon fallers' have posted on this thread....so I'll be the first!


Most of you know I caved in

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Registered: 11-09-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 10:36pm

I've lost count now and have decided keeping the count of days is not important to me :)

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 7:12am

Mickey,


I was happy to see that you posted in on this thread. That tells me that you are ready to do the work for getting that NC counter going again.


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Bravo!


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   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 7:42am

HH2B,


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Honey, you need to make a decision to attend these functions on your own. E-mailing him, IMO, was just an excuse to make contact. Did he respond? Listen...even if he says he's not going will never guarantee that he won't pop in anyway. Surprise! ....

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-04-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 8:12am

I am really not sure where the LC counter starts and where it stops and where it starts again. I hate LC! I wish I could go NC.

All I know is that I have not wanted this A for almost a year.

I just wish I could build a big iron fence around xAP's house and that he would never be able to get outside again. Wishful thinking huh? I know.

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 11:24am

Good morning -


Iddy, I would like to congratulate you on your new CL position and

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Registered: 10-04-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 12:11pm

Iddy -


Thanks for the wonderful post in response to mine.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 12:58pm

((Debra))


I must have accidentally skipped over your post last night as I was trying to reply to every who chimed in. Actually, I was overwhelmed by the responses to this thread. All of you ROCK, and just having you all

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 1:46pm

Hi Mickey,


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Bingo!


I was thinking this but was trying to figure out how to word it on your other posts as I didn't want to bring up something discussed in another forum.


It's better though that you see this as a possibility for yourself as it means more when you come to that conclusion on your own as opposed to someone telling you. It means you did some hard inward searching.


Finding out why we broke NC is important so we can put in actions countermeasures to avoid the pit fall again.


Big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you cant you are probably right.


A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 01-15-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 8:03pm

{{{IDDY}}} :)

I am approx. nine months LC - xmm is my boss of over 20 years and we have to work one-on-one everyday - so NC is impossible and in fact even LC is difficult. The A last for a year and rendered me completely broken emotionally. I could not understand why I could not walk away from a relationship that was causing me so much misery and despair. Then I stumbled upon this Board just after Christmas of last year and after reading everybody's posts and the Healing Library, I began to understand the power of the "A Addiction" and thus began my painful journey to take counter-measures against the addiction. My journey continues to date and I am beginning to see through the fog and as I am beginning to "see" clearer and clearer every day, I am getting more and more emotionally detached from xmm. Xmm is still pursuing me, but I am now able to deal with him by "rejecting" his advances without offending him so that we can still work together every day. My hope is that in time our relationship will normalize again to the way it was before the A. I am so grateful to EAS and will be eternally thankful to all the wonderful ladies here who share your stories here so generously every day to help others heal and move on from the terrible and toxic A. Iddy you have been instrumental in my healing as well :) (((HUGGS))) to all and MERRY CHRISTMAS !!