NUMB...will it ever get better??

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Registered: 05-26-2010
NUMB...will it ever get better??
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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 12:52pm

I’ve been posting here a lot these days because I have been flooded with several emotions (as you all understand).


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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 2:46pm
He's trying to suck you back into being his little play toy. Think about it this way, if he's mad that you are finally sticking up for yourself and not allowing him to have control over you then you should be happy that you have finally taken your power back and it's his problem that he can't handle being in control. For whatever reason he's mad it isn't your problem. It's his. Force yourself to stop being so concerned about he is mad and focus on becoming a better person. Take all of that energy you are expending on him JAM and think about you can make more self improvements and not ever create a situation at work like this again. You are so lucky that your A ended without blowing up in your workplace. I have seen workplaces romance turn real ugly where someone gets fired. Hold your head high and stop asking him if he wants you to do anything. Did you really have to send him an email "volunteering" to do something for him. Just ignore him and only contact him when you absolutely have to.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 7:08pm

Hi CG4S,


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Sounds like it would have been better to give him some info. on meds to control his sudden onset of Turrets in lieu of an email.


Ok so question about the email you sent. Did your T recommend you send the emo email or the apology?


Bottom line you cannot control how he acts. You can only control how you act. No more emo emails all just business from here on out.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 11:24am

You know what - you are so right. WHO CARES why he acts the way he acts, clearly the man has issues, for real!!


I can't worry anymore what he thinks about me, why he acts the way he acts, why he makes me feel as if I was the one who S*IT all over him, why he can't even just get along for work purposes.


I am done with it all; no more trying to make things "right" as far as helping him out on something (unless he asks me), no more giving a rats a$$ anymore!!!!!!


Clearly HE needs to grow up, HE is the one with the issues, HE is the one who HURT ME and HE is the one who can't handle "it".


BTW, loved your comments here -

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Registered: 07-21-2010
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 2:21pm

I hope today is going better for you than yesterday. Your last question, "Why is he acting this way?" is one I think we all struggle with and the answer is that it doesn't matter.

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 3:22pm

Thank you for your words. I just posted something new titled "he just twisted the knife" ..... I'm a wreck right now, so very hurt, more then I ever was.


I want to go home but can't becuase another gal left early for the day.


Never been so hurt before.