The obsession of NC

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Registered: 05-21-2010
The obsession of NC
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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:19am

Seems to me that NC has become an obsession of sorts around these parts. I am not trying at all to be disrespectful to the vets because I KNOW that it saved your life, so please hear me out.


I feel like I'm am trying to work myself up to accomplish this big goal of NC from AP, and I stress about never talking to him again (because he sits on the under end of my phone like a crack pipe that I can smoke whenever I want). And I stress about

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 5:56pm

This is exactly what I have been doing for a month now . OBESSING! I went years months with NC because life got hectic for us and we didnt have PC for 5 years and now one nite one month of constant txt msg's and phone calls and i can not stop thinking about him now more then ever! I think

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Registered: 05-21-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 7:57pm

sorry to ramble .. i just had an AHHA moment and im astounded by it .. maybe now maybe i can stop obessing and see things from his point when for the past few weeks its been all about me why me now i have a little prespective from his side just from that one statement .. its not going to be easy but at least i feel better today then i have in a while .. thank you ......


I am really glad that something clicked for you. Maybe you just realized that he wasn't trying to hurt you in the end, he was realizing something you hadn't seen yet. My AP was always concerned that I was putting my life on hold for him, and I swore I wasn't but now I totally see that I was. He was seeing things and how this A was affecting us both. I was completely out of reality.


When you have these Ah Ha moments, grab on to them and let them root themselves deep inside you. Don't reason them away or let your moods chase them away tomorrow. Think on what you realized until it gets deep down into your heart. And carry that with you until another comes. :)

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:29am
Now that I can see somewhat clearly today and I still have my Ah Ha moment goin within .. Heres another one that as of today is helping me cope..I was 5 yrs ago the Betrayed Spouse as well as the betrayer with XMM... When i found out about my husbands A i was devistated ... I just saw that YOU LOST ME video on tv with Christina Agulera and OMG.. it kills me ... I feel all that pain she

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