Oh My Gosh

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Registered: 12-11-2009
Oh My Gosh
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Wed, 04-21-2010 - 1:42pm
So for those of you who don't really know my story....A started in 9/08 and lasted until about 3/09. Had LC after that until Jan, 2010 and then complete NC. My H only knows that I had a guy at work interested in me and I was tempted so I left that job. It was enough to scare the hell out of him and he became the best H anyone could ask for. So here I've been going about my business, working, enjoying my H and family and completely forgetting about xap. A couple of weeks ago I posted about a friend of mine telling me that an acquaintance had told her that I cheat on my H (that conversation took place a year ago). So with the help of all of you I blew it off since it was so long ago. This morning I come home from the gym and see that there is a message on my answering machine from some woman. Here is what it says: "Hi, I just saw your wife at the gym, and I think she has something going on with some guy there, anyway, I'll try to catch you at work". Wow, I was floored! I didn't even speak with anyone at the gym. I always wear my ipod and get my workout in without talking to anyone because I'm so pressed for time. My xap doesn't even go to my gym. I immediately called my H and let him listen to the message. He was concerned. I told him I have no idea who this could have been. So what do I do with this? I'm shaking all over. I hope she does contact him at work so I can get to the bottom of this. Man, just when things were going so well.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 1:54pm

Eh, too little information. Do you know who this woman is?
Did she call the office? Treat it like you're not guilty; because, you're NOT.

Stay strong and united with your man. Let us know how it goes.

Best,
Dee

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Registered: 10-04-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 2:36pm

Wow. Why would some person you don't know call your home phone and leave a message like that, when you don't even talk to anyone at the gym? It all seems very strange. Good for you for telling your H, though, so that you can deal with it together.

Do you have ANY idea who it might be or why they'd make such a call?

Let us know as things progress.

Sending you positive vibes...
Gal

NC since October 2, 2009.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 12-11-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 2:43pm
I have no idea who this woman could have been. I did not recognize her voice and either did my H. Just so weird. I'm dazed and confused. So far she hasn't called my H at his office. I pray that she does because I want to know what the heck she's talking about!
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Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 2:52pm

That really SUCKS!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 08-06-2007
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 4:36pm
wow, that is strange. Could be someone who knows you, possibly knows of the past A or bits of info and trying to start some crap now - most likely because of jealousy. Out of the blue like that is odd. Head up and eyes open :-)
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Registered: 12-31-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 4:43pm

I would be floored too!

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Registered: 04-15-2010
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 6:38pm

Do people not have enough going on in their own lives?! Really - that's so pathetic. I could never imagine thinking that was a good freaking idea. It scares me when people make assumptions about other people's lives - gosh I have had women as clients whose abusive partners found out they were having As and proceeded to deal with it by beating the crap out of the woman/women.

Honestly ... shaking my head.

Keep strong. We are all here for you.

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 07-02-2008
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 6:49pm

Wow, that is some scary stuff BUT it isn't true! So keep your eyes and ears open. I can't remember if your XAP was M or not?? If so could it be his W?

~Stargirl~
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Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 7:18pm

Hey AAI - I am going to say something totally off here, and I hope you won't get offended - but do you think your husband may be having an affair? The whole incident is just beyond odd. Is your husband totally honest with you? I mean you really WERE at the gym, so most likely it's not somebody just got a wrong number. But he denies knowing who this woman is and denies her calling him at work? Something does not add up here.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 12-11-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 7:21pm
Stargirl, no my xap is not married, has never been. Here's what I'm wondering. Even though I wear my ipod and a baseball cap so I don't have to make eye contact with people at the gym (I'm always pressed for time and have no time to chit chat), people still come up to me to make small talk (annoys the heck out of me). Sometimes guys, sometimes girls. I am a personal trainer, but not at the gym I work out at. Most of the time the conversations are questions about strength training, sometimes not. Anyway, you all know how gyms can be, guys try to pick up on women all the time. I always try to be cordial, but never too nice to lead someone on. I wonder if some woman saw a guy talking to me, found out who I was, made an assumption about me, and made the call. Does that sound like a long shot. Am I grasping here? I'm still so confused about this.

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