OH OH!!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
OH OH!!
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 3:07pm
Don't know whats happening...oh, oh.....breaking down...for some strange reason I am feeling sentimental...weak...feeling like "we could just be friends"...why can we feel so strong one moment and then all of a sudden WHAMO! hits you like a ton of bricks and i cant seem to control the urge to call him...not to rekindle it but i just miss him as a friend. normal? damn it!!!

was doing so well and i am falling hard for some bizarre reason!

HELP! what do i do?????

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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:37am
THINK IT, BELIEVE IT, SPEAK IT, AND YOU WILL DO IT.

Free

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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:56am
From your mouth to Gods ears. :)

ok...SAY IT OUT LOUD....THINK IT, BELIEVE IT, SPEAK IT AND YOU WILL DO IT!

done!

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Registered: 07-30-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 11:57am
dipss yes. i have to go to his wedding. and as i am writing to you i am crying wit pain

i cant get out of it. i have to go to her wedding shower and to their wedding and pretend that i am happy!


i really hope that this gets better because i am tired of the pain!!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 12:08pm
Damn girl! What the hek you thinking torturing yourself like that???? I dont know your full story but my lord. DONT DO IT! do you have to go?????

I can't even imagine that! There must be a way out...some sort of way that you could get yourself out of this. Are you married?

ok...give me your scoop....cuz' I am having heart palpatations for you.

xo!

Dipss

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Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 1:15pm
Hey dipss,

I asked her the same question yesterday because I was so taken by that, Her children are walking the wedding. That is one messy circle for her. I feel so much pain for her. I can only imagine what that day will be like for her. I am praying for her because I know that will be the all time low.

Take Care..

Lady Bug

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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 2:26pm
Hey Lady,

Wow. Just when you think you have a messy situation you see this! How are you doing?

You holding up ok?

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Registered: 03-16-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 2:32pm
Upsidedown, you need to come down with a sudden migraine, or a stomach flu, or something!!! I'm sure we could all come up with some good excuses for you!
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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 2:53pm
Hey Katie,

How are you? Thanks again for the dose of reality that you gave me earlier in the week. 3 weeks today at 3:06pm....woo hoo!!!

You know, I have a question - do you ever go through a day when you are so happy in a good mood and that triggers you wanting to call him too just cuz' you are feeling like talking to friends when you are in such a good mood? Just curious if that is a normal reaction too. :)

Ok...now upsidedown...we all need to figure out a way to get you out of those committements. I am with Katie...we can help you figure out a good excuse. So what do you think?

Dipss

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Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 3:48pm
Hey Dipss

I am doing pretty good this week. I had my sad moment today but am over it. He continues to come to my thoughts, but I know for what I see from all these postings its normal.

How are you doing?

Thanks for the concerns.

Lady Bug

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Registered: 03-16-2004
In reply to: dipss
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 3:55pm
Hi dipss,

I know exactly what you're talking about, about feeling like calling him when you're in a good mood, or when something good happens that you'd have shared with him in the past. It is perfectly normal to feel that way. I do not get that feeling anymore, ever, but I sure did for awhile!!!

Life is good, dipss, it has never been better. I have found myself recently enjoying *everything* I do so much more thoroughly than I can ever remember! I think it is because for so long, every single thing I did was somehow tied to XOM... If I was at a party, I'd be thinking about how I'd describe it to him later, or how fun it would be to have him there, or how I could sneak away to call him without anyone knowing, etc... He really invaded every part of my life, and now that I no longer have that burden, I am really appreciating life so much more! I went away with my best girlfriends last week and enjoyed it more than I ever have -- and we do this every year! Last year I insisted on having my own bedroom -- so I could call OM late at night. This year I bunked with my old roommate and had a blast. We did the same things we do every year, but somehow it was a million times sweeter this time.

Anyway, you are at 3 weeks NC, you've passed on a strong urge to call him this week -- you are doing GREAT. And I am telling you all this about myself because for me, it took 10 months to get to the point I am at now... So be patient with yourself. I'm trying to give you some hope that if you can hang in there, it will be so worth it! :)

xo,

K.