Ok Help Me .... 5 minutes no contact

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Ok Help Me .... 5 minutes no contact
16
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 3:37pm

Ok.... I did it....now what??? help me please

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 3:39pm

Ok... I went back to MAS.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 3:48pm

Man...

I GET THE DESPERATION IN YOUR VOICE. I HEAR IT.

ITS OK! CLING HERE YOULL GET THROUGH THIS.

Why'd you END IT?

Michelle

Everyone's ringing in! Here you go! You're being welcomed onto the bus back to your SANITY, DIGNITY, PEACE & FREEDOM!

READ ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING ON NO CONTACT UNTIL YOUR EYES dry out & blur....its something you can CLING TO!

Take all the thoughts & feelings you have about your past (xap) and put them in a box for NOW and forget about them.

Every thought NOW involves how

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 3:57pm

Hmm..good question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:02pm

Holy crap!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:04pm

Congratulations, Cloud. You are ready and you really can do this. It is going to take an enormous amount of strength--more than you think you possess. But every one of us here as done it--and lived through the very raw and painful initial ending stage.

The very first thing you need to do--and it will be extremely difficult--is to block and walk. Block him from email, phone, FB...any means of communication where he could get to you. This is probably the hardest thing to do. I resisted the first two attempts I made at ending my A...and because of that, I got right back into the A. It's very easy to do when they contact you because you fall for those extremely gratifyingly addictive highs all over again. Spare yourself the agony. You cannot "just be friends." It's simply not possible in this situation right now.

Then you read and read and read until you think your eyes are going to bleed. Then you post every single emotion, feeling and thought you have. I found it helped me greatly to offer support to others while going through my own suffering. Even when I didn't believe I could make it through and that I would never be able to follow my own advice, I still kept on posting. Maybe this technique will

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2009
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:04pm

YES, YES, YES!! (me jumping up and down with my arms in the air). WOOHOO!!!!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:10pm

Oh, Dee. Bubblebath-dialed. I LOL and nearly peed my pants.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:11pm

THANK YOU ...THANK YOU...so much ..Everyone......I will be back..I have no one in RL.. I will need all your love and support

MC

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:16pm

MC.

<>

This is all you will need to make it happen, honey. Now get back to your reading, posting, learning, and most importantly right now, you'll need some rest and TLC. You are probably in shock too and that's normal, so don't panic if you find yourself staring off into space, or crying your heart out. Ending an A is different for everyone but the initial reaction is one of disbelief and/or uncontrollable sobbing. I just tranced out for a while, going through the motions for a couple of weeks as if I was on autopilot. I heard people's voices but it was just a low buzz sound like when TV stations used to sign off. I was coherent, but unresponsive, if that makes any sense. One thing I couldn't do though was cry. <>

Unfortunately the board is pretty quiet on the weekend, but if you need to talk about anything, there is always someone who will see your post. I'll be also be checking in periodically. Understand too that our emotions affect our bodies, and sometimes our immune system takes a hit, so I would advise drinking lots of fluids (no alcohol), get plenty of rest, and eat light but healthy. Are you M? If so, you'll need to find some way to be alone once in a while to regroup. Take long hot showers or go for a walk if people are always around.

Hang in there. I think you know the drill about NC...so if you haven't already, make sure to block all channels of communication with XAP. Having this OVER means now it's time to protect yourself from yourself. :smileywink:

((Hugs)))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 4:26pm

I will be here all weekend should you need any support. I am single and have some things going on here and there but am not even dating anyone so I would love to spend this weekend, getting you thru, by any means necessary....

that's Malcom X btw....by any means necessary you will get thru this and we will be here to love the heck out of ya, get you support, cry with ya, laugh with ya....whatever ya need, we are HERE to get ya thru.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida

Pages