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| Fri, 11-12-2010 - 3:37pm |
Ok.... I did it....now what??? help me please
| Fri, 11-12-2010 - 3:37pm |
Ok.... I did it....now what??? help me please
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CLOUD - you've made my day in coming back.
What I found helpful was to literally walk around my house and hold objects (pictures, my kids toys) that would ground me back into my REAL LIFE. Not an imaginary world that I had built up in my mind (or online), but the real life that was surrounding me.
I don't know it you have a family - children of your own, a partner? Maybe I've missed this. Our fantasy relationships impact on these real relationships. We only think we have developed feelings, but after a while you'll realize that what you're calling love (what many of us called love) wasn't love at all. How can you even know a person who you've only seen a few times a year? You fell for an image, a perception of him that was created online. You didn't experience any stresses of real life with him. See, you may have dealt with hardships created within the "reality" of the affair, but you've never had to cope with anything as mundane as grocery shopping or as significant as financial crisis. It was a staged relationship. It was devoid of the troubles of real life.
It is a lot to take in, but the sooner you can come to grips with this, the sooner you'll stop missing an illusion and focus on the real.
((hugs))
TU.
OMG
Cloud, I am so proud of you!!
Dee...hahahahaha bubbledialed!!
Cloud -
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The simplicity of your post touched my heart. As you've already seen, you will get a lot of support here. I'm also single, and able to check EAS often over the weekend, so post when you need to.
"Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck."
Big hugs to you, I am so happy you decided to stay with your decision on ending your A :) Post and read as much as you can,also take extra care of yourself and be kind to yourself :)
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