Okay Folks, I need your opinion!!!!!
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Okay Folks, I need your opinion!!!!!
| Wed, 03-24-2004 - 6:55pm |
XMM called me a couple days ago, and asked if we were over. I told him that I can't do this anymore and that I can't handle the guilt of it all. I love him. but I need to just get over this and move on like he suggested I do several weeks ago. (too that statement he said he didn't want me to get over it and move on). He told me this...
I love you and am in love with you
Need you in my life for the long haul.
He states that he has been faithful to me since this affair started. (Remember, now that his marriage is not good!!!)
He feels that we should commit to each other and he feels committed to me already. and he feels I'm afraid of committment).
He has loved me for a long time. and he can't let me go, no matter how many times I run off from him, being guilty feeling for attempting to have s**. He won't give up on me.
I love you and am in love with you
Need you in my life for the long haul.
He states that he has been faithful to me since this affair started. (Remember, now that his marriage is not good!!!)
He feels that we should commit to each other and he feels committed to me already. and he feels I'm afraid of committment).
He has loved me for a long time. and he can't let me go, no matter how many times I run off from him, being guilty feeling for attempting to have s**. He won't give up on me.
Basically the bottom line is that he is always gonna be part of my life forever. I know that. I love him. But I am scared.
He asked if he could just see me this weekend, if it's only just to hug me, and that's all. He knows that I am stubborn and that I won't cave that easliy. That man has been after me for about 2 1/2 years now and as little sex he has had from me and as many times I have up and left him hanging, he still comes back. The times we have had NC has killed me and I told him that.
Do I meet him?
Is it really love for him or is he just really wanting S** from me.
What do you think???
And THANK YOU so much in advance for your support and opinion!!!!!!!

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"Do I meet him?" NO
"Is it really love for him or is he just really wanting S** from me. no TO THE FIRST YES TO THE SECOND.
This guy is playing with your head sending changing signals.
What effect has all this had on your own marriage if you are married, this Guy is destroying his marriage do you want him to destroy yours??
My humble opinion is that you probably just need to get a handle on exactly where YOU stand and take it from there. :)
Thanks!!
HEY
This may be a rude or stupid question but way does your husband put up with this guy chaseing his wife, mine if he were to know would kick his *SS and if that did not do it things would get worse for MM from there.
F
he asked me once: do you think we will be doing this when we are 65? And sometimes, i think we will. We will always be friends, dip in and out of each other's lives and will always have a strange kind of complicated and beautiful love for one another.
My XMM will never ever leave his marriage, and apparently i've chosen not to leave mine (at least until my boys grow up which is another 10 years from now).
Clarice
JMHO
Bird
YOU ARE STRONG, TRY NOT TO FORGET THAT.
I know this doesn't matter really but........
I hope he is happy in his life.
I hope that he will find the woman he "needs" one day.
I hope that he realises, the love I had/have for him is true and that he lost a good thing.
Oh well.... time to move forward. This woman is determined to be happy again, and enjoy her life, and is thankful for what she has.
It's his loss!!!
TCOM
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