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Okay Now What?
| Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:18pm |
I just got a call from my brother.He said to me i have something for you up to you what you want to do.My exmm give him a letter for me and asked him to please make sure i got it because it was important.My brother was like i will call her tell her i have it and it's up to her if she wants to read it or not.My ex was could you tell her please to call me if she won't read it i really need to talk her.My brother was what you need to do is stay away from her you have done enough.He also told him she needs to be away from you you both have to move on.My brother has never been happy about the whole affair from the get go.Me for being with him and him for sleeping around on his wife.But no matter what he has always been there for me.
So do i have him drop this letter off/or into the trash?And i am trying to stick to my nc rule.But this is killing me i am curious to know what he wants.
So do i have him drop this letter off/or into the trash?And i am trying to stick to my nc rule.But this is killing me i am curious to know what he wants.

JM
The Trash after he tears it apart, DO NOT TAKE THE BAIT. DON'T LET HIM SUCK YOU BACK IN.
Free
Maybe have your brother read it first and then he can let you know if it's something you really need to read for yourself. If he knows what's best for you, he can either give it to you or tear it up and tell you it wasn't so important afterall. Let us know what you decide.
PAL
You're going to read the letter, because it will kill you not to know what is in it. So go ahead and read it. (Don't ask your brother to read it and decide. You're a big girl. Do what you need to do.)
Now, you may FEEL this way, but this is REALITY the VAST majority of the time:
1. You DO NOT want to be with a man who cheats on his wife. I don't care what the reasons are.
2. If you hook up with this man, these 'feelings' you have for this man aren't going to last forever. Sooner or later (probably sooner), you will be working (WORKING) on a relationship with him.
3. He is going to need AT LEAST one-two years from the time of his divorce before he gets involved with someone else. He's also going to need some counseling. (And so do and will you.)
If you don't pay attention to this, you're going to be on the divorce support board in just a very few years. I know you don't FEEL that way -- you and he are special, your relationship is special, you can beat the odds. Don't bet your life on it. I know you don't think this is true. But it is.
I am off to have dinner with my daughter and a movie and to forget my second of weakness...