Ok....I'm back

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Ok....I'm back
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Sat, 03-06-2010 - 11:12pm

Have broken NC after text messages received from xAP. Need to work on alot of stuff at the moment, and have an IC session this Wednesday.

Thanks for your support xx




Edited 3/7/2010 4:18 pm ET by bestrong2010
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sun, 03-07-2010 - 7:32am

B_S,


Of course you are welcomed back. It took me 3 times to make my ending official, so I certainly wouldn't turn my back on you. Sorry you have to start your NC all over again, but these are lessons we have to learn as we find our way back to higher ground.


At least now you know how easily it is to trip, stumble, and fall and how important it is to do everything you can to safeguard yourself from letting it happen again. Changing your phone # is a good start.


We'll be looking forward to your support again,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-16-2010
Sun, 03-07-2010 - 1:34pm

Bestrong,

Looks like both of us are beginning the journey again. Yes, it is sad to say goodbye. Very sad. So a big ((hug)) to you. And so what if the tears come? They are cleansing and relieve stress. :)

It looks like you are on the verge of a new dawn with your M ahead. Good for you! I would write more but have to run (eyes approaching...).

xoxo,
Misty

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sun, 03-07-2010 - 6:03pm

Misty and BeStrong,

U both have contributed to this board in positive ways since you have come around. You have helped me and listened to me ramble etc...you are both welcomed back and I am happy you guys have the courage and honesty to come back and do what in your hearts you know is the right thing despite how painful it may be. Still here if you need us...

We have all fallen, me too, even tho I did not break contact, he got in and he got to me and he haunts me still. And I let him. I have good and bad days. I am gonna post a thread telling you why I think my NC has been successful thus far. Mind you its only been 3 months for me. While a milestone, I got a ways to go.

Please stick around and I post post post.....

changing numbers are so empowering....pain in the butt, but you are so much better off...

Besos y Brasos
Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 9:45am
Best-
Welcome back. What can we do to help you better this time? Let us know what you need, ok?
Open arms,
Dee
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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 6:51pm
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Registered: 11-19-2006
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 2:41am

It took me several times in seven years to go NC, and not proud of that at all. I didn't know this board was here because....well, the fog locks us in and until we come out of it, we don't start looking for help, as we think we are the only one in it! We are on an island floating around with xap and the rest of the world doesn't exist.

One important message I gave myself during the roller coaster ride was for every step back I took, I would make sure I took double that forward. I became jaded and distrustful of everything about the A, including xap and myself. I'm not as jaded now as before, as time takes care of us :)

Get out of the A and stay out, as the longer you stay, the more addictive you will become and the days and weeks will turn into lost years.

I read that it takes half the time of the length of the A to become whole again. For me, I have about another year and a half. Wow, that just hit me hard, which means I will work my buns off to make it happen faster!

Learn from those before you!

NC = No New Hurts

Hugs,
Mish

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:07am

Go read my post in the HL under "Success Stories." I explain it all there why the 3rd time was the charm. ;-)


((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-01-2009
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 12:17pm

bestrong-

You have picked me up and cheered me on, even when I messed up. Your posts have meant so much to me. I am such a newbie at this, so I don't really know what to say, except, I'm glad you are back! Don't beat yourself up too much, just get back to business.

We need you here at EAS! :)

Much love,
Hazel

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 1:14pm

Hi Bestrong,


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.