Omg I need Help :(
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| Fri, 10-02-2009 - 9:59pm |
I have been married for 18 yrs , had it rough for the first 10 yrs mild emotional abuse due to his depression. I told him to leave , he got help and takes antidepressants and changed a whole lot. He has been back for 4 yrs now. Slipping slightly saying mean things occasionally, taking me forgranted. I told him it was not normal that our sex life dimminished. He didn't listen so I felt emotionally abandoned. I met someone a long time friend. We have had an affair for the past 7 months. He did the right thing for himself right away and ended it with is wife saying I have shown him what happiness is. We have fallen in love.
I told my husband my feelings have changed , I havent been attracted to him for at least a couple years , so he moved out .My husband spends every minute he can begging , trying ,apologizing, crying daily to have me back. I am sick. I know and knew what I wanted and now with two months of brain washing I am so afraid that I will give in and take him back. Everyone says marriage counciling... I understand that but the attraction is not there even though I love him. Its like a brother. We dont fight just live separate lives. I am so " stuck " My friend makes me SO Happy , I am not sure of a future now maybe later. We both have children and live far apart but the quality of our time is so beautiful. How can I ever end it with someone that has been honest , and never hurt me for someone that has ?And never know what could of been ?
I had not idea what I would create by doing this.

Hi liv,
My first impression is you need to take care of your marriage first. Then see what happens. Maybe marriage couseling, together with individual couseling, can afford you some answers. You will find no peace if you continue to be involved with both relationships.