OMG - Need Advice

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OMG - Need Advice
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 9:13am

OMG!

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Registered: 10-25-2002
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 9:24am
I am confused at how this is any of your business or the school's business. Isn't this more of a private matter between the two??
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 9:26am

If you can't handle this situation is a straight forward way, because of your previous A, then recuse yourself and find someone who can professionally handle this situation.

Because the W has written this email to everyone, it would be very easy to pass this on to someone else who may be more qualified. This can't be the first time that something similar has happened.

You don't have to make an excuse. Be a leader and delegate this to someone who will handle it fairly for everyone involved.

RBM

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 9:30am

Mom -

I can only imagine how this is hitting you. You have to put on your administrator hat and forget about your own life. Approach this as if you've never had an A. What is the school's policy for such things? Even though you have suspected, it is all hearsay right now, and I'm sure you have to be very careful delving into a staff member's personal life - especially if nothing has happened within the physical school building. You are a strong, amazing woman. You'll handle the it professionally, without a doubt. I'm very glad you have your H and your T appointment today to help you deal with the personal aspect.

Thinking of you -

Bodhi

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 10:41am

Well first of all, I received a phone call from several teachers telling me to check my email. The woman even attached very racy emails her DH and his AP had sent each other. It becomes a school matter because the BS demanded that the woman be fired. Of course she can't make that happen. This woman even attached a picture the AP sent her DH that was very explicit. I have to do something because over 30 ppl were sent the email. The BS is so mad she threatened to come to the school. Her email sounded like she has gone over the edge. It's really odd because I know her and have seen her on several ocassions and she is such a decent person. I talked to her DH because I had to call him, and he told me that she is going crazy with anger. This is such a mess. I guess its true what they say about hell hath no fury like a woman scorn.

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Registered: 10-25-2002
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 11:04am

Really though, what are you or anyone at the school going to do? Play Mommy & Daddy and say "no no behave yourselves". This should at least be brought to the attention of the police department just so they have a heads up. I mean what if she really does come out to the school? You've heard how crazy people can get especially lately with all that's been in the news.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 11:44am

Wow - a mess is an understatement. Turn to your school board or your higher ups - I'm sure you'll get the professional support you need. And say a prayer of thanks that you are the amazing, healthy woman you are today!

(((hugs)))

Bodhi

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 5:02pm

Hi Mom,

I agree with Bohdi, time to step away from the emotional impact and put your administrator hat on. Also it is time to delve into your schools policies on the matter.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 11:47pm

Ugh....yeah, everything Bodhi said, everything E-1 said.

Luvin
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