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| Mon, 02-07-2011 - 9:39am |
It's been an amazing weekend.
Friday I spent time at my mom's house and we ended up talking - I mean REALLY talking - and she made the comment (which shocked the crap out of me) "I'd be disappointed if you didn't divorce and close off this chapter of your life".


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((Lolly))
What a kick in the proverbial pants. I am so sorry. Just when we think we are almost out of the woods.....
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ARE YOU EFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFING SERIOUS????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
UGH.
WOMAN, YOUVE BEEN THROUGH ENOUGH.
Im just going to say a prayer.
Listen if ANYONE can handle THIS change of events with GRACE it's YOU.
Lord Be WITH YOU,
I was SOOO STINKEN EXCITED ABOUT YOUR WEEKEND. The hair cut! the Junk food!!! cmon man...
Lord Please give Lolly the strength and wisdom to respond gracefully, yet again.
Xo,
Michelle
(((I'm so sorry, Lolly)))
Here's a BIG, FAT (((HUG))), and a dose of Rolaid's for the indigestion for you.
Stay strong Lolly!!!
GF
xo
Oh my dear, Lolly.
Just when you think you've got no more strength left, you get to dig in to find some more. WHICH, I know you will do.
Oh, how awful. I'm so sorry that you are going to be reminded of it and him daily. But maybe this is actually an opportunity to put everything you've learned to the REAL test and by doing so, you are going to grow leaps and bounds. My bet is on this, Lolly. You are going to find out just how strong you are, and you're going to break through any shred of self-doubt and you are going to really, really UNDERSTAND and BELIEVE your
Oh Lolly... 30+ emails suck!
Remember, you actually don't know this "man" that has the same name as your xAP. KWIM? You only knew some f*ed up version of a fantasy persona ... not him. YOU are not the same person who engaged with that married man. See - you are both strangers to one another. YOU see only the brightness that is your future, and regardless of what bait he sticks on the end of that hook, including the old - itsn't it great that we can still have at least "this" (ya - I got those work emails too) ... you just think to yourself - Hmmm what ever does this stranger mean? And you just keep moving forward. ANOTHER tactic to use is to imagine each and every email is also copied in to his wife and your boss. In fact, in the end, I made sure every single email was also copied to another person so that he KNEW that I wasn't going to go there ever again. He would respond back to me personally, and I would disregard unless there was something work related in it - and then back I would respond copied also to someone else.
YOU can do this ... and just wait until you realize what true personal power you have over this situation.
Much Love,
TU.
thanks for the support and great suggestions!
You're such an inspiration to newbies like me. He'll figure out soon enough that the woman he's dealing with now is not the woman he thought he knew 7 months ago but one with an unshakeable resolve to live her life with integrity and self-respect.
Hugs and smiles.
Kat
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