OM's W phones my H, denies everything

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OM's W phones my H, denies everything
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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 2:42am
My H and I have been doing a lot of talking the passed week, and he wanted to do something to not only show how much he loves me, but to also make our life simpler, and his idea was to write OM a letter.

Tell him that basically this bull has lasted too long and if its meant to be over all he has to do is say, not hint, ignore, whatever, but be a man and respect me who he's played with for so many months.. nearly 9 now..



I read the letter, it was kind, it was brutal, it said we weren't perfect here in our life, but that OM is just as much to blame and if he has two choices, leave his wife and kids, and give me the world, or simply tell me, in any form that its over and give his reasons..

Thats the most respectable thing to do.

Last night, after getting the email to his private work mail, OM's wife phone my H. She said she has seen letters and cards from me, and that she knows her husband has nothing to do with it. That he has no idea how i got his number or email and that I am harassing him. My H listened intently, and said he awaits OM's reply to his letter.

My H knows everything is both sided. He has seen OM's email and text messages, and knows that she is dilusional. Now we wait for OM's 'explaination'. H is planning on ripping him a new one should he say that he has nothing to do with it at all.

But what makes me laugh is that OM'S W phoned. The email was to a private work address, and he actually had to print it out at work and bring it home to her, and she being the jealous, demanding woman she is, said, what.. let me call him then.. My H left his nr for OM to call. Talk MAN-MAN:: i guess thats just not possible with him.

At least this is all really over...

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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 10:03am
So, in essence your H gave the OM an ultimatum on your behalf?? Wow. That is almost too much for me to grasp! BUT -- I am glad for your sake that you feel this is finally over. I hope you get the closure and peace you are looking for.

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Sun, 05-09-2004 - 5:12am
Just an update.

OM sent H an email. A nice long one saying that everything I have said is completely un-true. That he finds it hard to believe that he could ever 'fall' for someone after one day of 'photographing at a wedding'. He went on to say that his heart has always been and will always be with his family, and how I ever got the idea that it was with me, makes him wonder.

He says he wishes us the best in our marriage and that we can solve any 'problems' we are having.Also that he could never possibly be one of those problems as he doesn't even know us. As we don't know him or his wife.

He is such a coward and a liar. I text him telling him that he is weaker than any person I have ever met. Has he forgotten the emails and text messages I still have? Was I going to spend the weekend in a hotel without him?? That he is such a waste of time and that he thinks he has everyone fooled, but thats just not the truth..

Why would a man do this? I know sounds so lame, why not, why risk his kids, and family, but why not just stand up and admit what you've done? Stupid little man..

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Sun, 05-09-2004 - 9:09am
Just be glad that he's not your H and let his wife deal with him.

If he chooses to be a coward, that's their problem.

It sounds like from what you have posted that you're H is a pretty good guy. It might not be a bad idea to appreciate the man you have standing right in front of you.