Once you asked for NC

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2009
Once you asked for NC
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 11:30pm

did AP try to contact you ? Curious how many had ex-ap's try to contact when they were told you wanted NC.

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 11:37pm
I never asked. Just went NC. No looking back. He has fished just a few times, but I think he got the hint. Smart man. Heh. He will find another sex toy somewhere. I am just glad that I am not it anymore. Hearts <3
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 11:42pm

Me? None.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2007
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 12:31am

After about the 2nd or 3rd try, I finally said no more. Funny thing, I thought

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2007
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 12:32am
One month here and I've heard nothing. Our last convo was very painful for us both. He ask if we could talk later and I said "no, not unless you are ready to make this work. Don't just fish. We can't be friends. " Honestly I thought I would have heard from him by now and I'm trying not to think about how he feels and wondering whats going on with his life. I won't contact him. I'll hear from him one day I'm sure. Probably when one of them leaves the other. , I want to be ready for it and say "meh". Don't think I could say that now so I'm thankful in a way that he hasn't. I like to think it's because he really did care about me, and finally realized the pain I was in and would not want to cause me more.

Babbling now. I'm still sad. :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2009
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 12:39am

((((((CHECHI))))))

I know that feeling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2007
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 12:57am
Hey.. I'm supposed to be telling you to hang in there!!!! So hang in there. It does help to know I'm not the only sappy xAP our there. Can't wait to be like Bodhi and just not care whats going on over there. (my x lives close to me too.)
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2009
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 1:03am
:+)))) Me either, Chechi, me either. LIFE.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2010
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 8:21am

I was one of the newbies who was jealous of the other women on the board who had exAP's who fished. I was obessed with it. I kept wondering if he would fish. When? I longed for it? Just to know I mattered at some point. I ended things, but I still missed him and needed some assurance that I mattered....something!!

It took my exAP over two months to fish....and when he did, it was something awful. He would not let up! By then I was mortified! He happened to fish on the same day I had minor surgery. I was esp vulnerable and I felt so violated that he would even contact me.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 9:05am

I went NC without telling my XAP I was doing it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 9:20am

I tried to disappear while XAP was on vacation over the summer - didn't work. When he got back I had about 10 scary, mean voice mails over the course of a few days. I felt that I needed to actually say the words "don't contact me", which I did. After that he stalked me for over a month - drove by my house and my office all the time but didn't call. I know he thought that I had ended it because there was someone else and I'm sure his drive bys were to catch me in the "act". It's so sad because there wasn't anyone else then and there still isn't now. But he always had to make it my fault. Fine with me! :)

Bodhi

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