one last time

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Registered: 03-08-2009
one last time
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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 9:20am
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Registered: 10-04-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 12:04pm

Alice -


I think you need a good healthy dose of reality and tough love.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 2:16pm

Alice:


Please don't meet him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 4:43pm

Alice~


You've received some great advise here!

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 7:29pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 7:37pm
OMG, I am so proud of you!!!
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Registered: 01-17-2010
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 7:40pm

alice....

You are awesome! Go girl...I just don't know what else to say right now :)

You dug so deep and did something that you can look back on and be incredibly proud of down the track - and yes, that may take a while due to the pain of withdrawal. BUT YOU WILL GET THERE!!! You have done the most incredibly difficult part already, and that's ending this madness. This damaging, lying, deceitful and majorly hurtful pain. You have done it. Block and walk, and begin your 'new life' - one filled with integrity, dignity and freedom. And honest love, not 'fantasy' love that needs to be secretive and hidden, built on lies and pain.

What happens tomorrow? You start living minute by minute, hour by hour. Then those hours turn into days. And alot of that time there may be incredible pain in the pit of your stomach and you may think you cannot survive it. BUT YOU WILL!!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

Stay on here with all of us who have been going through exactly the same thing - we feel your pain, we know how debilitating it is. But we're still here climbing out of our holes bit by bit and we're on the way out!! Just as you will be too....

Be Strong my friend, reach out to your H and lean on him if you can. Try and stay busy (I do know how hard that is, but try) and stay calm, take care of yourself and take some slow deep breaths when you're struggling...tell yourself over and over "I CAN do this...!"

Take care and will be thinking of you xx

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 7:52pm

YES! YES! YES!!!!!! Alice did it!!!! whoop! WHOOP! I am so excited and happy for her!! Let's all give her a huge group hug and round of applause!!

Way to go, Alice! Welcome to the Board, in earnest, and know that tomorrow really, really IS going to be the first day of the rest of your BETTER life!!!

So proud of you!
Dee.

(((((HUG)))))

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 7:58pm

(((Aliceinwonderland)))


Woo-hoo!! Welcome to endings! ;-)

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-17-2010
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 8:07pm

Count me in the group hug!!!!!

So so proud of alice-how strong you are my friend!! May hurt like hell for a while but one day you will look back on this and be incredibly proud of what you did, and the fact that YOU took control of your life, ending more hurts once and for all.

:)) xx

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 8:53am

Way to go Alice...


Today is the first day of the rest of your life.