one last time

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Registered: 03-08-2009
one last time
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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 9:20am

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Registered: 12-11-2009
Sat, 02-13-2010 - 10:40am
Hi Alice,
Just wanted to let you know that had I read your thread about being strong enough to avoid the "one last time" it would have saved me the "one last time" heartache and setbacks that I had to endure after many, many months of NC. You are an inspiration to many newbies as well as vets out there that are still feeling the need for that closure. I thought that by seeing him one more time that all the right things would be said to give us both closure. That didn't happen at all. Our hearts only broke more at having to say goodbye...again. That was Jan. 13th and I'm still suffering after having made incredible progress. My warning to everyone out there is that there is NO SUCH THING AS CLOSURE!!!
So, congrats to you for having the strength to say no. Stay strong. Stay busy. When thoughts of him come to mind, which, I know, is constantly, yell STOP! Turn your focus to other things. I had to turn off the radio in the car or put it on talk radio because too many songs reminded me of him. I cleaned, organized, exercised, got together with family and friends, cooked, read healing books, CAME ON EAS, which, btw, was the most helpful of all. Listen to these wonderful ladies. What they say is true. I'm praying for you, me and all of us who struggle with the WHY'S. Great big hugs to you Alice.

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