One thing that has really helped me. . .

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One thing that has really helped me. . .
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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 11:24am
i don't know how many of your are religious or spiritual, but one thing that has really helped me the last few weeks is simply praying to God that he/she can "help remove this XMM from my heart, my mind and my soul." I say this every morning when i wake and every night when i go to bed--and many times during the day. I also think to myself: that God has me exactly in the place i should be right now" and both of these things seemed to have helped me, especially over the last few weeks.

I have also realized, by reading many posts, that i am actually mourning the affair that really never happened. Certainly, my situation is/was not as complicated as many others on this board. But it still hurts, painfully so, to have found someone that represented everything to me (warts and all) that i could not have. It was if someone had wrapped a gift and left it on a table, teased me with it, and then told me i could never open it.

I also realized the other night, it is as if we are all reading the same paragraph over and over in a book, trying to figure out with each read if it will somehow reveal something different. Only when we decided to accept whatever that paragraph says (our situations) will we be able to move on to the next paragraph and the next pages and chapters of our story. I don't want to be stuck on the same paragraph anymore.

I am so thankful for all of you.

Clarice


Edited 3/24/2004 12:28 pm ET ET by claricews

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 12:13pm


Amen Sister!

elf

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 1:27pm
thank you for sharing that with us clarice...our relationship with God is something that is very personal, but I believe the power of prayer is deeply underrated...you are proof of that.

HUGS

Jazzdiva

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 6:43pm
I also believe that praying can help, it certainly can't hurt!! I also think that belief in a higher spirit makes us think that there is a greater reason for all that happens to us. All of our relationships develop for a reason. When we are trying to get over one, there is a reason for that too. I know we all look forward to the day when we can look back and know why we had to suffer loss of a love.

Keep praying

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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 8:41am
Yes, Clarice, I do exactly the same thing. And there's very good reason to "turn it over." Given human impulses and desires, left on our own we're not able to resist temptations like great sex outside of marriage. When those situations occur that we're tempted to act on character defects and use bad judgment, the only way to stop ourselves is to turn it over to God. With His strength we can do anything. On our own, we're most likely to make a big mess. Thanks for your insight!

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