THe Oprah Show from yesterday

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Registered: 04-30-2003
THe Oprah Show from yesterday
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 1:39pm
Hello, all.......I was just wondering what you thought about the Oprah show yesterday. I had a lot of mixed feelings, you know being the OW........I do have to say that I thought the man was being honest even if it was hurtful....that is rare. Just wondering...seems like something everyday reminds me of the affair I had....when will it end? Some times it makes me want to just pack up and leave, maybe somewhere else would be better and no reminders.

Have a great day

T
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 1:50pm
what was the topic? what happened?
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 5:20pm

I missed the first segment and saw the couple that the OW married the MM and things are working out. The last segment had a BS who couldn't let go of her anger until she had confirmed the details with the OW. I think BS has a lot more issues to work on about herself adn why she chose to not let go of her anger until she got confirmation from OW.


I am tempted to email Oprah with my life experiences as a follow-up. I'm just not interested in being a nationwide spectacle..........


Overall I thought Oprah was fairly even-handed in her comments.


cl-nre


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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 8:57pm
Hi, it was about a man that cheated with a woman around the corner....its too long to explain. Oprah did a good job "trying" to touch ever aspect, but I felt like the man was being honest, or trying to be....that was a shock!!!! Of coarse the OW got slamed. I feel like the OW always gets the raw end of the deal, like there wasnt two people involved. Its just not fair the lies and everything you are told...bla bla bla....I don't even want to go into it but I just wanted to know if anyone watched it and their oppinion.

Have a great day!

T
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Registered: 08-08-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 4:10am
Hi Lydia,

I can't say anything on the Oprah-Show as we don't get it here in Germany (sometimes old ones, but never current shows)... but your last sentences about "packing up, going someplace else, no reminders" make me want to answer you: I did just that; in a 50% concious, 50% desperate decision: Married another and moved far away. It did not help one bit as forgetting is concerned - as I would have known, had I thought about it properly beforehand.

The reason is that you can never make your head + heart leave; those 2 will stay exactly where they want to, and for you and me (and a lot of other women who had affaires) that seems to be in the past. The reminders of our loves/affaires, be they good or bad, will always stay inside ourselves, wherever we go.

"When will it end?" is the price question here, and I'm asking myself as much as so many other women on this board. The only way to reach closure for yourself sems to be to conciously change your own life: Get different work, do things you haven't done before. Then, going away might help, too. This from a woman who has not yet managed to do it herself ;-) When i reach the point of admitting to myself that LIFE with the XOM would never have worked out, because the AFFAIR ended (so logical, but so hard to admit!), when I can finally be thankful that I had this wonderful experience full stop, when I can say "What-Ifs don't tether a cow" (meaning they are completely useless to brood about), THEN I will be able to move on.

It can be a long way. Wishing you all the best for the road,

Marion.