Out of control

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Out of control
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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 1:02am
If you've read my brief saga, you know that XMM (for lack of anything else to refer to him as)and his W work where I work. Since her discovery of some (don't know how many) emails from 2002 she's gone off the deep end. I really don't care what she thinks of me, but she has this uncanny ability to raise my blood pressure. Truthfully, I can't have her screwing with my job. He told her that they were almost two years ago, purely fantasy, and nothing ever happened. Well, that's not good enough for her. I stay away from her. I don't talk to her. Basically, I've nothing more to do with her than I have in the past. Tonight she was in my department shooting me dirty looks. I blew her off. A friend asked me to walk to the vending machines with her and we dropped some things off on the way. Well, she was there, rolling her eyes as usual and I again dismissed it. When my friend had to stop and grab soda money she verbally attacked me. I kept cool and just said, "Knock it off, you are at work," and walked away. I am fuming now. My friend got called in by her boss and I'm afraid she's going to get sucked into the whole mess. I told XMM that I can't allow anything to affect my job and I've told him that I will bring her up on harassment charges if she doesn't get off my back at work. That was over a month ago, before the email discovery ever even happened.

Here's the other thing that pisses me off. I am being the "bigger person" here. There are a zillion things I could say to her, but I refuse to stoke the fire. Why can't she deal with her marital problems elsewhere? Why can't she deal with them period? Why doesn't she ask her H what happened in their relationship? I'm not even saying it was her fault, but someting went wrong somewhere. Why do I bite my tongue when I soooo desparately want to tell her that she couldn't give me her H wrapped up in a bow b/c I wouldn't take him. I don't want him. He's a sad little coward. I know way too many personal things about both of them that could destroy them, but I say nothing because I'm being an adult. I couldn't deliberately bash him, even though he's put me through emotional hell. It's in the past. I'm not proud of it, and I wouldn't judge someone else by their past. I don't need to tell everybody at work that she's an unstable, alcoholic mental patient who carries on in front of her child and has been physically violent with the child in the room. Sadly, these things are all true descriptions, not a product of my need to vent.

I was tempted to take my vengance out on some ice cream, but we only have chocolate and I really don't want to screw up my diet. Guess I'll just go to bed. Been home for a while and got out my frustrations. Thanks again for the ear gals. Am I doing the right thing by "behaving myself"???

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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: ontheblink
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 2:10am
YES, keep your mouth shut and your gun in your pocket.

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