out of the fog for nearly 1-1/2 years :)

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Registered: 10-18-2008
out of the fog for nearly 1-1/2 years :)
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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 11:40am

Good Morning :)


Its been awhile since I've been EAS, but I wanted to stop by and wish all the strong and determined individuals who've found EAS, the best of luck in life. Making the decision to finally go NC is a tough one, but one decision that I'll never regret making. Its been very close to a 1-1/2 years since I've walked away from the nightmare I took part in with an ex bf of mine from 12 years ago. Its been a long and painful journey, but I'm still chugging along, taking each month, week and day one step at a time.


There will be times when the pain and memories seem overwhelming. There will be times when "just a quick text or phone call" would seem to be just the fix we need. There will be times when the tears start welling up in your eyes, the withdrawl so strong that you've got no where else to look, but up.


When times like these arise, ask yourself, "is it really worth it?" "is it really worth walking back into that quicksand of a nightmare that this is?" Is it really worth jeopardizing my life and that of my family? And think about xap's family as well..is it worth breaking up 2 families?


I've held firm to my Faith and with lots of prayer and a good Therapist, I've made it this far.


I commend everyone for making that big step in ending the A and taking your life back. Take care, good luck and keep on keepin' on. You can do it. Things will get better. Your heart will once again heal, and life will be so much more vivid outside of the A.

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 12:53pm

Thanks for checking in! It's the success stories that keep me going. I am one of them and will continue to be one of them. You are an inspiration.


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 1:22pm

I second Jane.

It is stories like yours that give that extra little push in those dark moments. I am grateful that you came back and posted your success story - I consider myself one too ... and know that this board will be apart of my life for years to come. Paying it forward.

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 4:50pm

Thank you both very much for your kind words. Once we've made that decision to stop the madness and take our lives back, we've already begun writing our sucess story. Every day, every week, every minute is a new chapter. Especially in those early months, but we can and will get through this journey we're all on together.


Take care and here's to wishing everyone the best of luck.


WAM

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Registered: 07-01-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 7:28pm

Hi WAM


Thank you for this post... it's good to hear from people who have made it.


I'm only 13 days NC - longest ever. My A was only 7 months, but I just wanted to know how you feel now so long on - wow a year and a half.


And how long did your A last and how long into it did you wake up and think, I feel fine and stop thinking about the A or your XAP in a romantic light?


I'm finding it extremely tough and would love to hear your story.


Thanks again.


PL x

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 2:10pm

Hello and hugs to you Pikulou for making one of the