Overwhelmed with guilt

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Registered: 11-24-2010
Overwhelmed with guilt
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Mon, 02-21-2011 - 12:18pm

Hello everyone,

My story is quite a bit different from most here, although an a is an a and I realize it wasn't real in a sense because of the hiding etc.

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 12:47pm
I'm not sure what you mean about it wasn't real because of the hiding - All A's are the same in that most hide them -

I had no dday either, and now through no choice of my own, work with xap in a weird round about way.

Ending an A is hard - but you did not crush him AAI. he may have lost weight, he may go bald, he may also have been sick - since you haven't had contact - there is no use in playing the fault game.

AAI - your focus is in the wrong place. Stop being his mother or loved one who worries when weight is lost, or they look sad or hurt - YOU ARE NOT HER.

How is your M? How are you doing in moving forward? Not only would your contacting him prolong the hurt and anguish for both of you - it would be a HUGE setback . It is hard. Very hard. YOu made the decision to end so that no dday would come to light. To reinvest in your M - that is the point of MC right? Refocus love, refocus on the goals that ARE your priority.

He is not your priority, your worry, your issue. Maintain and improve YOUR mind, YOUR home, YOUR focus.
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Registered: 10-20-2009
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 3:27pm

Hey

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 11-24-2010
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 4:05pm

Lolly,