Is part of the ending process.....
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Is part of the ending process.....
| Tue, 10-13-2009 - 7:43am |
knowing you need to end it but keep chickening out? Please don't ask me to post on MAS, I am meeting him today and ending this. I just keep second guessing myself, thinking maybe I can

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xAP ended my affair, so I didn't have to worry about chickening out, but I have to believe that knowing what you need to do but being afraid to do it is a very common theme in ending affairs.
Toward the end of your post, you say that you are scared of the pain that lies ahead of you - that you will never stop wondering about him and why you couldn't have met at a different time, etc.
Hi LFT,
Great idea to end it…but your plan of how you are going to end it hmmmm. Let’s see meeting in person and alcohol will be involved. I assume that is what you meant by meeting for a drink??
Your method gives him an opportunity to talk you out of it. It also leaves the door open to make more promises…like we can still be friends or we can still email or text just to see how one another is doing and so on. So unless you plan on walking in and not ordering a drink and saying something to the tune of “I can’t do this anymore…bye” then your plan has a lot of holes.
You said you’ve been lurking and reading for a while here so a little review. A’s have NO rules. A’s end…eventually one way or another.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Hey...I just got here yesterday...my story is almost identical.
I'm 5 1/2 years in...2 days out.
Good luck with your ending process. A month ago I was determined to find my end. I had one of those "THIS IS THE LAST TIME" moments; enjoyed a night of company with my AP; felt miserable driving home; and came to this board. I went NC that day; and after 25 days went again for "THIS IS THE LAST TIME".
Its an addiction, a drug; and there is no mutually friendly way to END an A. The end is your will and your belief that you do not need it in your life and the END is the silence that is heard.
My 3 year afair; has done nothing for me. Where have I gotten with it ? No where! And where did I want to go with it No where ! I remember being so eager in the beginning; and wondering about a D-Day or how would I ever get out of the relationship. Here I am back to Day 5; trying to end it for the I can't even count any more time.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Good luck tomorrow...
I would have never believed I would be here...5 1/2 years later.
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