Parting shots...

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Registered: 06-22-2007
Parting shots...
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 6:07pm

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Registered: 01-31-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 11:57am

oh, I wanted to add - have you guys ever read back those unsent emails/letters?

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Registered: 02-02-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 12:17pm
I did just the other day wow did I swing from one extreme to the next the 1st week and whew on the not sending.
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Registered: 12-13-2010
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 12:25pm

Just have to chime in here!

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Registered: 06-22-2007
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 1:27pm

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 1:40pm
We all read your post, and responded from places of deep care & concern.

Out of all the responses you received, it sadness me that you'll focus on the few isolated comments spoken to clear the fog.

Wishing you well,

TU.
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Registered: 01-31-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 2:12pm

idkwiwt,

Um, i was so confused by your latest post that I had to go back and read it again and, this must be what offended you in myrasfriend's post:

You are angry at him because you feel he used you and he is saying to himself you signed up for exactly what you got.

I believe it was YOU who did not read properly and chose to decipher it from your defensive standpoint.

You don't need support to stay NC?

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 2:13pm
Idk, early on Iddy scorched my rear end on a post. I cried. I was so upset. I went away and guess where I escaped?? Right back to the A. I had another poster say some unnecessarily harsh words about 3-4 weeks into this ending. I also got some comforting responses. I chose to ignore the harsh one and concentrate on the others. Why?? Because by this time I knew I needed the support and couldn't do it on my own. Why go thru all that pain alone? It makes it much more bearable when we can lean on others who have BTDT. The written word can't be taken back but it can be ignored if you feel it is detrimental to your healing.

You don't have to be in this alone, honey. We do care about you. Most of us understand your deep feeling of pain. I hope you choose to stay here and let us help you. Can you put your temporary hurt feelings aside and do that? For yourself and your well-being? I hope so.
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 01-31-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 2:13pm
idkwiwt,

Um, i was so confused by your latest post that I had to go back and read it again and, this must be what offended you in myrasfriend's post:

You are angry at him because you feel he used you and he is saying to himself you signed up for exactly what you got.

I believe it was YOU who did not read properly and chose to decipher it from your defensive standpoint.

You don't need support to stay NC? You are kidding yourself. Kind words are not what's needed to snap one out of the A fog, in which I believe you are still deeply entrenched. I am so thankful I was in a place where I could receive BOTH support and criticism (TRUTH) to get out of my A hell. I hope you get there, too.

I'm sorry that you chose to leave because this EAS community was truly a Godsend for me.


What is a BS?
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Registered: 12-13-2010
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 2:37pm

BS = Betrayed Spouse

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 6:25pm

Hi all

IDK- where did you go? Trust me the tough words are said to help you. It takes all kinds of advice to finally hit the mark. We have all received some harsh wake-up calls. Ignore what doesnt work for you, but dont throw the baby out with the dishwater!

Keep listening to the advice. you need to get through this phase of your post-A period.

Iggyx

You are what you consistently do