the party

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Registered: 02-02-2011
the party
Sun, 11-11-2012 - 8:36pm

Ok so we went to the party i did my best to control lc, didn't make eye contact, didn't start any convos with him and was very short and tense in my replies to him. He doesn't get it he kept seeking me out whenever i was by myself, told me how good i looked and to get me talking every chance he had. I remained steady in my rebuffs and at one point after drinking all evening he said i guess i get to go home and be with her since you don't want me so f it that right there is an example off an a&sclown my friends. Of course he tried to fix that with you know how i am when I'm mad i say things i don't mean. I didn't even reply and hubby and i snuck out without saying goodbye. Not gonna lie i didn't have much fun , i had a cig when i shouldn't of and cried a little while was out there but i lived.

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Community Leader
Registered: 11-04-2012
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 12:54am

I replied and got an error message about an hour ago....grrrr.

I think you did great.  Can't fault you for having a ciggy during a stressful time.

I think he will always be a kill-joy, and that's why it is so important that you avoid him like the plaque and continuing distancing yourself.

You survived this because you are strong and you know you are doing the right thing.  It can take a while for us to unteach people how to treat us, but you've now taught him that you are a women of conviction...a woman of your word.

You did good :)



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Registered: 02-02-2011
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 7:49am
Yep your right he always will be one ofthe things he said is you can not talk to me for years and i will be right there the moment you ask. He well try to manipulate the situation evey time, Dam don't i wish his wife would do something to piss me off so i could just be gone with an explanation. She's good at that she has no friends maybe I'll get lucky lol. Mostly I'm just going to be busy and tell my h she's annoying me for now.