Passing along some advice to try

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Registered: 09-08-2004
Passing along some advice to try
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 9:28am
I want to pass along some advice that I was given a few years ago and admittedly, did not take. In my never ending quest for something that might help me get my head straight and get out of this A., I had joined a Bible study group, which was comprised of mostly older women from an entirely different generation. In a discussion of what a husband and a wife's role should be according to the Bible (did you know men are supposed to put their wives on a pedestal and adore them?) we spoke about our own marriages. I told these ladies that my husband didn't pay much attention to me or give me what I needed (and that was ALL I told them!!). They suggested that I treat him the way I wanted to be treated-shower him with attention, do lots of special little things etc. I said "why would I want to do THAT-I don't want to give and get nothing back, (EXACTLY what I did throughout my entire A., ironically). They said, just go ahead and do it. It may take some time but after a while, he will treat you as you are treating him and it will be great. But you have to initiate it and stick with it. Well, I never did do it, I just continued with my stupid A. instead. I've been reading alot of your posts where you're wondering how to get something back with your H,'s and I thought I would pass this idea along. I am going to try it myself but not just yet. I want to give myself a week of NC first so I'm not trying to deal with too much at once. Good luck to all of us-wouldn't it be great if we did end up being put on pedestals and adored-but by the men we're MARRIED to?
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 9:41am

"Good luck to all of us-wouldn't it be great if we did end up being put on pedestals and adored-but by the men we're MARRIED to?"


I will settle for nothing less from the man who is lucky enough to have my hand!


P.S. I will also be happy to reciprocate ;-)


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Registered: 09-08-2004
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 9:53am
Set your sights high, girl!!! I've been married 20 yrs.-my pedestal is about as high as a pair of sensible shoes-LOL.
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 9:56am
Hiya Too,

While it was no bible class I attended, I received the same great advice from my Mother.

9mos on, it works. Oh, and it's great! ;)

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 12:28pm
toosmart4this

I grew up Churched and if I remember correctly it is called sewing and reaping/ planting and harvesting.

What goes around comes around / cause and effect /karma if your a buddist.

The bible does command a man to love his wife and treat here right, but it also commands a wife to RESPECT her husband.

I think the pedestal and the respect have to go hand in hand, YOU CANT HAVE ONE WITH OUT THE OTHER.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 12:59pm
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