Passion

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Registered: 12-29-2009
Passion
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 11:28pm

Passion is the one thing that Xap and I had between us, that I've NEVER

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Registered: 06-19-2009
In reply to: whydididothistous
Sun, 01-03-2010 - 11:45pm

Yes i know what you are talking about.


To answer your question:


..was it

Sunshine

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Registered: 08-06-2007
In reply to: whydididothistous
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 12:14am

hi why,


I can certainly relate to what you are feeling. I was bored in my marriage, hubby was off pursuing his interests and dreams, there was little, if any spark left in our

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Registered: 12-29-2009
In reply to: whydididothistous
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 12:16am

Waiting...again, you are a ray of sunshine! When I hear you talk, I hear my Xap's voice. You say all the same things he did.... about the wrongness, and the hurt of other people, our kids, etc. There is so much truth to what you say. I really wish I would have listened to him long ago. Coincidentally, our A lasted a year too. That's when he seemed to really pull back. I think it just got to be too much for him... especially with new babies in the picture.


I need to go back adn read your story...I can't keep them straight with all the people on here.....


I will take your advice, and take my time making a decision. There are lots of other factors, of course, that lead to this. My H is a wonderful man, provider, now a great father... but we've always lacked in the sex area. Partially my fault.... I never had the animal magnitism towards him... mind you, never experienced it before this A.... so I'm not sure if I'm delusioned now. I'm going to see a T soon... I'm hoping she/he will be able to help me muddle thru those issues too...


I don't want to leave my H, but I also believe life is too short to be "sort of" happy> I've seen the results of that in many marriages that I know... including my own parents. I won't stay in sometihng "for the kids", or "because we made the vows". Its 2010... and I don't want to say marriage means nothing, but I will say I'd likely never do it again, and don't have the faith in it that I used to. Maybe its because I'm lacking faith in myself... again, issues I gotta get thru.


As you can see I gots lotsa issues LOL. (at least I'm laughing I guess...)