Perspective starting to change

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Perspective starting to change
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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 7:59pm

Hi everyone,

In the department I work in there are four women (me included) and one male.

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Registered: 10-20-2010
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 8:22pm

That's really great that you're gaining some perspective on yourself, getting a little air in.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 8:51pm

Jen, what's done is done and nothin' you can do to change it, so I am lovin' your attitude!! Bring on the pole!!

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 10:28pm

Hi freernow,

Hearing others stories is so helpful, I really got what you were feeling with that experience.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 10:32pm
Hello Jen,

It is so great to hear you working so hard to reflect on where you have been, and how that is shaping your perspectives today. However, I also think there is something to say about maintaining boundaries in the workplace. I have worked in a practice setting where there are very loose boundaries and that sorta joke would be common place. I don't think though, that it is all that appropriate. That's the tricky part - trying not to filter the whole world through the affair googles, while also being mindful that sometimes things are just plain inappropriate. Better to be safe with firm boundaries, then unsafe with fluid ones.

Much Love,

TU.

ps: i took poll dancing - LOVED it (And I have a degree in Feminist theory :-)
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 10:36pm

alwayst2, it was a good feeling to laugh at myself today.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 11:30pm

Hi transcended,

Boundaries are an issue with me, because I have not been firm with what mine are there are no lines for people to cross and people have been free to come and go in my personal space and often I have been upset by someone's actions. I invited these people in so I shouldn't be upset, what I should be doing is becoming clear on what my boundaries are.